What is the best way to deal with stress?

Question

My 15 year old daughter just came to live with me and she is not at all happy.

She throws tantrums to express her frustration and unhappiness.

I am very stressed out about this and don't really know how to handle it.

I have bad headaches and can not sleep or concentrate at work.

She pushes and hits me and then starts to cry and will not cooperate at all.

I try to go in the other room and she bangs on the door so much.

How should I handle the stress that she is causing me? I don't want to talk to her father because it will not help. He also lives in another state.

Answer 1

It sounds like you are both under stress and coping different ways. It sounds like she is confrontational nad you are an avoider who keeps everything in side. You 2 can find lots of ways to speak better to each other that will not only reduce stress but make you both happier. It is never easy for 2 people to be thrown into a new environment together and your daughter may feel that the move was out of her control and she did not have a voice so she is rebelling. Find ways to let her make some decissions- whats for dner how her rom looks. Sit down and make some rules or it will only get worse. Also involve her in the rules, the household etc...it will go a long ways.
Good luck!

Answer 2

it is intolerable for a child that age to hit her parents. You have a situation for sure.
Sit her down like an adult and tell her you love her more than she will ever know and that you want the two of you to figure out how to make the situation work. Tell her she is old enough that the two of you should be able to work together and express yourselves without hurting each other. Give her a chance to talk (not when she is mad...time this talk for a calmer time). Hopefully this will help her attitude a little bit. She obviously needs attention very badly right now. See if the two of you working as a team can identify the source of her frustrations and unhappiness and then find ways to address each issue. Listen to her suggestions too (if they are reasonable) and try to say yes to as many things as you can. And when you have to say no, don't say no right away. Tell her you need to think it over so she will know that her requests are being taken seriously.
A lot of this is due to the drama and high hormone levels of teenagers. However, it sounds like some of it is due to a history. If you can afford it, maybe you could take her to counseling.

As for your own stress, you need some time alone. Exercise is a good way to release tension and it's also good for your body and mind. Join a gym or take up walking or jogging.
Best wishes to you.

Answer 3

Try going out for the day to a theme park or go clothes shopping with her.

To deal with the stress, just try sitting down by your self and listening to some music that you like... thats what i do when im stressed.

Answer 4

Yes you need help! She needs counseling and perhaps you too. You didn't say how long it's been since she lived with you.She's angry about something and you need to find out what it's all about . Take time out on weekend for you to spend time with her and only her. Try to get her to open up and talk .it might not be you it could be something that happen to her when she was with her father and don't know how to deal with it. I pray that all will come out all right

Answer 5

you and your daughter need to go to counseling together, she's angry about something, you should also have her talk to a counselor at school, spend some quality time with just her, shes your child ,so shes worth it. This does not mean spoil her and give her anything that she wants, she really wants your time and attention, what ever is going on with her didnt happen over night so you cant expect results over night, put the time in, she's worth it.

Answer 6

1. i dont know why a 15 year old girl is acting like she 6
2. i wouldn't try to hide from it
3.you might want to get that girl some help

it not ur fault that she actting like that u might need to go to someone toi help you figure out what going on with her or just send her back to her fathers

Answer 7

Stareyes - before you can effectively deal with your daughter you need to deal with your stress.

One easy and quick way to release your stress is by using EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or Emotional Tapping. In EFT you apply gentle acupressure tapping to specific body points to release blocked emotions (stress). EFT is easy to learn (you can learn the basics in 15-30 minutes). You can use EFT anytime, anywhere for any emotional or physical issue. One basic round of EFT takes about one minute to complete. EFT works quickly and painlessly.

Please download the FREE EFT Instructional manual from the EFT website (www.emofree.com). Also, please watch the FREE Introductory video. Also on the EFT website under the button "What is EFT" check out the testimonials of people who use EFT and also the section under "Stress."

Tapping.com has 14 Free EFT instructional videos. You can learn how to do EFT in minutes along with the videos. Have your daughter watch with you.

I learned EFT last year and now use it every day for EVERYTHING. I have taught it to my husband and children (21, 20 and 15) and they also use it. EFT is wonderful.

Answer 8

Good luck!! Sounds like she needs a good old fashion trip to the wood shed, but since you can't do that anymore, I would suggest boot camp.

Answer 9

all that acting out is just teenager rage, but if shes hitting you, you'd better put a stop to now, b/c its going to get worse. try to get her to a counselor or someone or send her to her father. why should you have to be the butt of her rage. good luck

Answer 10

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