My boyfriend just sent me a text message saying this girl asked him for a threesome with me. We joked about it, but then he suggested that maybe we should try it. Not with her necessarily, but a girl we agree on.
I'm not opposed to the idea, I'm attracted to women and it might be fun. But I'm also a total hypochondriac about STDs. Is it possible to do this and be safe? What do we have to do, keep changing the condom? I don't know if it's the best idea...any thoughts or experiences?
2007-10-19 10:02:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are able to separate love from sex and same with your husband, and you both know that you two won’t be jealous of anything (it happens a lot even when they didn’t think it would happen), then your only worry is STD.
For that, you can either have the third person be tested (and of course you two too to provide each other with a safe environment) or joining a swingers club that has good reputation. That one is not as safe, but their members are tested all the time as requirement for the club, and usually is expensive to be in those clubs.
Since in this case that girl approached your man, you have to consider many things. She obviously likes him, and you two if she wants you on it no matter what. Maybe she likes you better than him, you never know.. until she tells you of course. Be sure you don’t have issues with any of those statements.
Then, you also have an advantage which is the fact that since she asked for it, you two now can ask her to get tested and she should be fine with it as it is what she wants. To avoid any problem, you all should go together to the doctor to get tested. And you have to find a lab that can have the results on the same day to avoid any problems unless you all can spend the rest of the day together so you know nobody did it after the test with an estranger.
Make sure you all talk about it, first you and your man, and then this mysterious girl that wants to have fun with you two. Set rules, explain expectations, and make sure you all agree.
Whatever you decide to do, good luck, be safe and have lots of fun!
2007-10-19 18:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dan D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you used hypochondriac wayyyy out of context!
Second of all, a threesome will ruin your relationship. You are basically allowing your boyfriend to cheat on you right in front of you, and your actually helping it! He will get it in his head that maybe he can be with this other girl on nights that you may not want to have sex.
If you are more into experimenting sexuall, then go for it if you think you will enjoy it, but remember, this will most likely ruin your one on one relationship with your boyfriend. Sex between just the two of you will never be the same and he will always want another girl around.
2007-10-19 10:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mike G 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if your really freaked out about std's then you should have everyone involved get tested just because thats the best way to be sure. Make sure your really positive about his threesome thing, they can be very tricky and you may think you want one, and end up being very very uncomfortable with the situation. I don't know from experience or anything but i have heard.
2007-10-19 10:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by California Kush 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it were me I would not do it. Alot of the times all it does is cause tension in the relationship. I know I couldnt stand seeing my man touching another woman or another woman touching my man.I would have probably ripped the girls face off(not lterally lol) for saying something like that to my boyfriend.Plus I would think it insulting if he wanted someone else like what am I not enough? If you are really going to go forth with it as far as safety wise I dont really know, maybe you should get the girl tested so you dont have to worry about that. That just my suggestion.
2007-10-19 10:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's totally up to you. But not only do you have to worry about STD's but there is always the possibility that he may like the other female more then you and end up dumping you at the side of the curb. If you are not woman enough for this fella then perhaps it is time to give him the travel card.
2007-10-19 10:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had one....but it wasn't planned. We were all 3 pretty ****** up, and it happened. It didn't do well for the relationship at all. I regretted it.....and he treated me afterwards like a slutt. But, he was an awful boyfriend & person....horrible relationship....so maybe my input on my past experience doesn't really count. But, best advice I can give....make sure you really want to do this....or don't do it.
2007-10-19 10:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by jillybean5415 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Dr. Drew. A 3-some will ruin your relationship.
But yes, you switch the condom each time (which is what you're supposed to do anyway, they're good for one penetration only).
2007-10-19 10:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by 006 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
STD's are very common these days, some people are carriers and they don't even know it! It is in fact a bad Idea.
2007-10-19 10:18:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Worrying about things during sex ruins the fun. I cant offer more than that.
2007-10-19 10:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by billgoats79 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think 3 somes are gross.
2007-10-19 10:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by LexiSexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋