Ok so here's the thing, our relationship is sh!t. She is so friken jeleous when i spend time with my boyfriend; she feels like he took her place i guess which is not true... All my mom cares about is clothes and shopping and looking good in front of other people. She gets mad at me when i don't "dress nicely" which means either not enough makeup or my top isnt open enough or im not matching enough... she thinks i act like this because now that im comfortable with my bf and he loves me i dont have to dress up anymore... that's not true, i like to dress nicely i just dont like to provoke attention so i dont wear the super open tops or the mini skirts... I'm so tired of her complaints, shes always complaining, we never get along anymore (im 17 btw) i cant take it anymore... please tell me what to do? Just don't tell me to talk to her about how i feel, i tried that but she's so damn materialistic that nothing gets into her head... So what do i do???
2007-10-19 08:45:41 · 5 answers · asked by Ooh-La-La! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What do you mean just dress the way she wants me to? than i'll look like a ****!
2007-10-19 08:57:23 · update #1
Thank you "MommaBea" No she isn't single my parents are still married surprisingly... i just dont understand the reason she is doing this... I am always stressed and I'm always crying of stress, like almost everyday... i can't take it anymore =(
2007-10-19 09:07:31 · update #2
Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. Try not to let her get to you. The next time she complains about your clothes, tell her that people look their best when they feel good in their clothes, and that you would NOT feel good in a mini or with your boobs hanging out! (You'd think she'd be HAPPY that you don't want to wear low-cut tops!) As long as your clothes are neat and clean, just let it go . . .
Is your mom single? If so, she may be making the mistake of trying to re-live her life through you, especially if she doesn't have a boyfriend.
2007-10-19 09:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK I'm not going to tell you to talk to your mom because obviously you've tried that and it doesn't work. The next time she comments on your clothes say this, "Mom, I am not going to argue about this again. I like the way I look. I don't tell you how to dress and I don't appreciate you telling me. It's insulting and hurtful." And then walk away.
I sense you are an only child and mom is starting to see a world without you. Can you talk to your dad about this? Can he suggest some hobbies or outside interests that your mom can get involved in so all her attention is not on you?
You stated that your mom is jealous of all the time you spend with your b/f. Can you dedicate a time during the week where you and your mom can spend some time together? Shopping, a movie, dinner out?
You may be fighting with your mom a lot but she raised a confident strong-willed young woman. Good luck.
2007-10-19 17:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step mom used to say similiar things to me. If I left the house in jeans and a tee shirt she would say "You're not really going out like that are you?", or she would say "You should flaunt it while you've still got it".
The thing is, when you dress the way your mom wants you to, especially at your age, you are bound to attract some negative/unwanted attention. I'm glad that you have enough self respect to steer clear of that. Many girls your age do not.
If I were you, I would continue to dress the way that I wanted. If your mom continues to complain about it maybe you could remind her that most mothers would be thrilled that their teenage daughter wanted to leave some things to the imagination. Turn on Jerry Spinger and point out the similarities between her desired style of dress for you and the clothes women on shows like that enjoy wearing. Ask her if she wants you to end up like that. Maybe that will convince her to leave you alone.
She is probably attempting to live vicariously through you. Your time spent with your boyfriend interferes with that. Unfortunately at some point she will have to realize that she needs a life of her own. Keep living yours.
2007-10-19 16:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dress nicely but not the dressing that your mom wanted you to dress. That's mean have a neat and nice appeareance infront of your mom. After she saw you have some changes maybe she start to praise you. I think to stop your mom complaining the only solution is to make some changes on you if not she will keep continue to complain.
2007-10-20 00:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by Danson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dress the way she wants you too . and may I remind you ,you only have another year before you are an adult and you can move out on your own and then you can have your own rules . Just do it for her untill you can get away from her . good luck .
2007-10-19 15:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋