single, and pregnant. and a teen. help?

Question

so to my previous question posted...i didnt know what to do..ive decided to keep the baby...im 16 years old, and the boyfriend and i just broke up today. the whole times hes treated me like **** because i have decided to keep it...he wanted an abortion and it would of been done today. i couldnt do it and hes known that from day one..but i had scheduled it anyways...i kept the baby and now....things r worse then ever. im single..16..and pregnant. how do i deal with this, how can i manage to not cry, how can i keep my head up. will i ever get another boyfriend to show me affection. im not immature so please dont judge by my age im very mature for my age. i am young but my lifes already changed before even this. ive always felt like i needed masculine affection, growing up with no father. do guys get involved with girls who r pregnant/have a child?...let alone be as young as i am? i believe ive made the right decisiion but the outcome of everything...is making me 2nd guess myself plz help

ok ive read a couple answers....the ppl saying the rude things...u can get over my age for two seconds..my fturue is fine and im giving the baby a fine life i dont go to school im getting my ged im getting my car in a couple months and im going to be an art teacher..t.eh moneys situations fine also..i can provide a great life for this child so thats not part of the situation..i need people helping me with my question not the details i didnt mention. im not trying to be rude but i really thinks its not nice to go off on a 16 year old girl whos decided to keep her child. u all are entitled to ur opinion which is fine but i can provide a fine life for this child my age doesnt make this childs life "not enjoyable" so if u decide to say things like that...get all the facts first..thast why i mentioned the previous question. take a look at that first. thank u

and i cnat use birth control it made me hemmorrage. i bled for 2 months. the guy ....we were together for over a year. im just goign to put the detials out there for the people completeing trying to tear me to pieces.

jezus u people im not looking for another man..its just me and my mother. she has bought everythign i need for MY CHILD AND IM NOT PUTTING IT UP FOR ADOPTION THAST WHY I KEPT IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. and i asked if i would be able to get into a realtionship in the future. not now

I CANT BELIEVE THERE ARE PEOPLE SYAING THIS ISNT A LOGICAL DECISION MY AGE DOENST HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH IT. I HAD UNPROTECTED SEX IM TAKING RESPONSIBILITY AND I WILL RAISE MY CHILD. DONT RESPOND IF UR GOING TO TELL ME I CANT RAISE A CHILD. PLENTY OF WOMEN DO IT AND I WILL NOT LIVE MY LIFE IN GUILT ABOUT ABORTION OR ADOPTION SO STOP WITH THE NONSENSE.

rediculous jut rediculous. me and my mom have talked every day shes bought everythign weve ben shopping everyday and i dont need counsiling..ALL I ASKED WAS WILL I BE ABLE TO GET RELATIONSHIPS IN THE FUTURE. so stop all ur nonsense ppl

i personally dont believe this question makes me immature.sorry to say but who ever thinks that. ur wrong. its just a question. i am young. but also confused. that doesnt make me immature. being confused is a common emotion while someones pregnant, and i just broke up with my bf any woman would be confused and look for guidance. maybe not any but plenty would. especially at my age. by this question doesnt "sadly" show im immature, its a question that should be asked at my age, and im just looking to see from a mans point of view or womans if a g uy would get involved or if a woman has trouble getting in relationships. its a question on yahoo answers. which deffinately isnt saying im immature or im extremely worried about getting a man in my life, im just curious about the outcome of being a single mother is all. im just thinking of my future. and the only reason i ask. is soi can eventually find a loving nice trustworth father for my child. that in my eyes. is mature.

Answer 1

you should have keep your leg close. but ask your mom and your dad for help. go get a job and keep your baby, you never know what he/she might do for you.
and i hope you enjoy the future.

Answer 2

I would not worry about getting another man, there are so many men out there. Good job for keeping the child, you are strong and keep your head up you did the best thing, that child is a part of you and you will see a mirror image of youself and love your child deeply. One child is not that bad, it just means you have to grow up faster, and you are now a adult and no longer doing teenager stuff, which is not all that bad. It doesnt matter if you have a child or not, the guys will always be there. But now the important thing is to keep bad men or boys away from your child, so you child doesnt have different dads comming in and out after different break ups, because it will confuse the child. Dont cry think about the beautiful life you and your child will have, that is the best gift. I have had no father too, so I know what you are talking about, but looking for a father in a man is not the way to go either, it will never work out, you have to love yourself first and your child and keep a man second or third priority in you life. You made the right decision to keep this child, you'll see it in the babies eyes, or when it looks at you with love when it hears your voice for the first time. Its not easy. Leave the boyfriend alone, let him come around on his own, get childsupport. Think of this child as only yours and how much you love it. Dont second guess you did the right thing, your child will thank you for life. There is tons of help out there for single moms. Get to WIC (Woman Infants and Childrens) and they will give you the stuff you need right now while you are pregnant, and they will also provide the food for your child when it is born, as it is expensive. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING.

Ignore the stupid people on here that are worrying about your age and adoption. Your a wonderful person.

Answer 3

Love, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Honestly hunny all you can do is hold your head high. Regardless of the fact people will judge and talk for the simple fact that your 16. But in all honesty if this is what you want then roll with it. Life is never easy and we all make choices. Just because you will be a young single mother doesn't mean you won't find love. If anything one day you may find a man who loves you and your child regardless of anything. But love should be the last thing your looking for at this point. If you really want this child then make the best of your decision... Educate yourself, learn about programs that can help you as a young single mother. And if this little boy wants nothing to do with his child then it's his loss. I won't lie and say being a single mom is easy because it's not, but the love that you would get from you child should keep you going. Just set goals for yourself and try to follow them through. And if crying makes you feel better... cry, just let it out cause the baby can feel all your stress.... and when it comes down to it be thankful for everything you have. Everything will work out... for some reason it always does, even if it's not what we were exactly looking for. I hope you feel better....

peace n blessings...

Answer 4

I know you are scared and confused right now. So is your boyfriend. You are both young, but trust me even prople older than you go through the same thing with unexpected pregancies. You don't want an aborition, so DON'T do it. It will only mess up your mind even more. Your boyfriend says he won't be there for you if you keep the baby, but he is not being there for you now. He is being very selfish.

You are very fortunate to have your family backing you up on whatever decision you make. Keep your baby. You will be so glad ytou did, no matter what the father does or says. He will have to pay child support. Big effin deal! Girl, you can do this. Having a supportive family will get you through this.

Men DO date women with children. I am a single mom. My son is almost 10, and I have dated quite a few guys, but I have yet to find the right one. My main concern is raising my son NOT to end up like his father. After your child is born, you will realize how much more important your baby is, over having a boyfriend.

It is not going to be an easy road ahead of you. Parenthood is difficult whether you are a single parent or not. But the regret you will live with if you abort it will be worse. There will be times when you will feel like nothing is going right, but if you keep putting in the effort and working hard at what is important to you, you will overcome this. Try to be positive. It is a difficult time for you right now, but if you want to keep your baby bad enough, you can pull through this.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Now is not the time to be worried about whether or not you'll find another man. Your priorities now are you are 16 and pregnant!! You need to first continue your education. Get help and support from the people around you. Study hard so that you can go to college. Education is key! It can transform your life. Being pregnant at 16 is not the end of the world. You are fortunate enought to be born in a first world country where you can pick yourself up and start over in more ways than you can even imagine. Remember adoption is always an option. There are wonderful couples out there who would be more than happy to adopt your baby if that's your choice. Keep your head up and learn to prioritize. Put men in the background for now.

Answer 6

People can be so mean...sweetie you've made the right decision. I applaud you. Life is full of decisions and changes and you're going to have to grow up fast! Tell, the baby's daddy either support you and HIS baby or never come around (get child support). You don't need losers like him to further stress your life. There are plenty of REAL men out there that will love you and your baby regardless of the situation. You seem like a very strong, moral person who's just had a unstable life. I encourage to stay the course and do not let anyone tear you down. What you need to do now is find any and all resources available to you and the baby. Someone mentioned Planned Parenthood. Don't forget your mother who will hopefully stand with you throughout all of this. I wish you and your baby the best. You are making the right decision! Good Luck.

Answer 7

Oh honey, I have been just where you are I was 17. Same situation my kids are now 10 and 7. When I was pregnant he left me, all I did was cry. It is one of the hardest things you will go through but as long as you have friends and family to support you that should help, I know its not the same. Dont even worry about if another guy will get with you at this point. Just focus on you and the baby. When the time comes a good man will love you both. Good luck.

Answer 8

there is no reason to beat urself up about the boyfriend he should have had enough respect/responsibility to help u and the baby out no matter what ur decision was. it does take 2 to make a baby. times will b tough i know my best friend got pregnant at 17. she quit high school said there was too much pressure however went to a school for pregnant teens graduated started working at a hospital and is attending college life is possible and yes she found her another man. men are difficult however there are some who are mature and will love u for u and ur baby. it may take some time but keep ur eyes peeled they r still out there. i wish u the best of luck and i no u will b just fine. if u need more help go to a counselor at ur school or at a health dept. and talk to someone who doesnt no everything aout u they dont judge and i found it very helpful while my husband was in iraq. may god with u!

Answer 9

Ignore all the jerks who are saying that you should have an abortion or that you're too young. i do agree that you should have waited until you are older, but theres no point in lecturing you on that. it's already happened. it only hurts and upsets you. I applaud you on keeping the baby and not aborting it. it IS a life. anyway, on to answering your question. try to be optimistic. you won't have so many jerks that just want to use you. instead, you'll get the men that are actually worth your while; the ones that actually care about you and don't just want sex. so this may actually make it easier to find a good guy...it'll just be a little longer search. Stay strong. you CAN do this.

Answer 10

Wo, you're sure stressed out aren't you? I don't blame you. Everyones patronising you.

I really respect you for keeping this baby and you seem to have thought about everything. Maybe you should think everything through more and calm down, getting yourself stressed with horrid people on here wont help. Take a bath, chill out.

And, as for finding a new fella, no problem! I know loads of people who have babies who find boyfriends who love the babies. If a guy gets with you AND your child, it shows he's committed, maybe having a baby is an advantage for realising if a guy is all he cracks up to be... lol, hope that wasn't too confusing!

Anyways, best of luck, and you really don't need that tw*t who got you pregnant! x

Answer 11

You will have a very long and tough road ahead of you. I hope you at least finish high school and maybe further your education if you can. I had my son at age 17. He's 15 now and let me tell you what, I don't regret it now because I love him more than life, BUT.....I wish I would have been able to be a teenager. To travel, go off to college, have a house full of roommates, not have to worry about dating or going out every other weekend when to baby's daddy has to child.....that's if he sticks around.
Good luck. Do yourself a favor, don't have another one for a long time after this one. It's hard with one, but way harder with 2..