what do you think?

Question

my male friend is an old friend from highschool, but he dated my best friend back then. though some crazy series of events my friend found him 4 yrs later and they dated. when the broke up he moved in with me, my BF and his friend. i have felt the tension brewing, but didn't think there was a chance. he was drunk the other night and talked with me about the possibility of starting a relationship together, saying it was my choice to leave my boyfriend. i said a few things then asked what waas going through is mind, he said he needed some time to think.
i waited two days and then texted him asking him if he had thought about it. he texted back "i am working on it. ill let you know when i am ready" later that night we were texting and i asked if he really meant what he was saying that night, he said he was really hammered and dosen't remember exactly what was said.
should i stop pursuing him? he is a great guy and extremly intelligent. how do i get him to be honest?

i forgot to add the i was drinking to but not a lot. he even asked me several times if i was just drunk or really serious about what i was saying.

also my boyfriend and i are going to break up as soon as our lease is up. i would never cheat on him.

Answer 1

wait until you break up.
tell the guy that if he is interested in you, he'll wait for you. it's the only way he will respect you. if you let him know, now (as you're still in a relationship), that you're planning on leaving your b/f for HIM, he'll never respect you for it. "Once a cheater, always a cheater." Break up w/ your b/f as you had been planning to do all along, regardless of whether you have a replacement. Once you break up, pursue that relationship with the other guy IF HE'S WORTH IT.

Good luck!!

Answer 2

Sounds like you just need somewhere to go after the breakup and lease ending. How pathatic! Have another drink and it will be all better!!

Answer 3

Do whatever you're going to do about BF before you do anything further about"new" guy...