Has anyone else had a child that they could no longer deal with?

Question

He lies about everything. Nothing is ever his fault. Even if you see something in his handwritting; he didn't do it. I am at the end. I have never been the type of parent to deny that my kid could do wrong, and

His behavior is starting to cast a shadow on his younger siblings. Since it is a small school, they are starting to think that they are all rotten children. In a private school, they will only put up with so much before you are asked to leave.

Not even two months into a new school and he has already turned everyone in his class against him. Very manipulative, even had the principal fooled.

Unfortunately, dad is not in the picture and doesn't want to be anytime soon. Tried the public schools, he had them convinced that he was abused at home. After an investigation, they found nothing.

Had to go to family counseling, that was a waste of my money. Therapist to him to grow up and take responsibility for his actions.

I don't know how much more I can take.

Since the problems began, I have been doing nothing but putting out the fires started by this kid. He is very mean to his siblings- they'll even tell you that it is much better without him around.

He steals their stuff and lies about it. It never ends. I am almost afraid of what will come next. Constantly mouths back, and instigates trouble.

I went to their school yesterday as a volunteer and got called into the principals office. They found a note that he and a freind had been passing back and forth talking about their male teachers being gay and screwing in the bathroom. They then went on to discuss shich girls in the class they would sleep with just to do it......

Grandma and grandpa cannot believe this behavoir since he is such a good boy and just perfect when he is visiting. (Dad's side)

They had made several comments about the problem must be me and have discussed this with his father.

If this was the case, why are the other's doing fine, no issues?

Last month, he had them all believing that he had cancer; he had a sprained arm.

I am deathly afraid that one of these times he will hurt one of the little kids and then blame it on me as abuse. Again he has hurt them before and left marks.

I have gone through counseling and it did nothing. Military school is out as I have other children to look after and cannot afford to waste all of my money on this child who refuses to accept responsibility for his actions.

I can't even stomache to look at him right now. I am just so fed up and disgusted. My main concern is that my other kids will not have and reprecussions from this. It's not their fault.

Answer 1

Well, I'd have to say, if he really does behave when he's with grandma and grandpa, suggest he stay with them a bit. Maybe a couple of weeks. Everyone take a breather.

We both know this child needs to go to his father. You're going to need some support with this, so, let grandma and grandpa get to know the boy, and then let them know, you think he's better off with his dad.

I'm not saying dump your son. You can have him weekends. But he's disrupting your and the children's lives, and you can't go on like this.

I also recommend regular times with the school counselor. For him. They'll keep in touch with you.

Too bad that Dad has opted out. Pack up his son and drop him off. Time to be a father. The end.

You can take the counseling records and documentation of abuse, and take Dad to court.

I had a friend whose large 12 year old decided he could abuse her. She finally gave him up to his father, who also, really wanted nothing to do with it. But they worked it out, and the boy is ever so much better now.

I wish you luck, dear...
and God bless you and yours.

Answer 2

How old is he?

My friend had a teenage brother, and he sounds the same as your child, even his friends. He used to be an extremely rude little brat with a serious attitude problem, but he has reached his 19th birthday a few months ago, he just seems to be getting more and more responsible and mature.

Or maybe he just needs more discipline.

Heard of the saying that girls mature much quicker than boys?

Even my 10 year old brother was a pain in the neck since he hit his terrible tolder years, in fact he still is.

Answer 3

Nearest kin...preferably male who has his head screwed on straight and is willing IF dad is not being an active father.

He needs balance of discipline, love, and diversion. Now whether that is available in your family environment or he accepts that or not good luck.

"Grandma and grandpa cannot believe this behavoir since he is such a good boy and just perfect when he is visiting. (Dad's side)" WHAT'S UP WITH THIS? Are you saying they feel you are just simply picking on your son?

Answer 4

Try the councling thing again, I know it seemed like a waste of money, and it is unless you can get a good therapist. Find counclers that deal with child and adolecent behavior. Find someone to talk to for yourself as well.

Answer 5

wow. i can truly sympathize. perhaps therapy isn't the only thing he needs. check with a psychiatrist and look into therapeutic day schools or alternative education. your school district can tell you of alternative schools such as those for behavior disorders. if he isn't capable of being in a regular classroom setting, they have to offer something else free of charge.
best of luck. i've been there myself.

Answer 6

Well, you had one worthless therapist, that doesn't mean ALL therapists are worthless.

I suggest trying counseling again; sometimes you have to try more than one to find one who can actually help.

Answer 7

It seems he needs some counseling. Afriend sent her daughter to boot camp and she really straightened out after that.
What are you doing to discipline him??

Answer 8

boarding school? military camp? he needs discipline and therapy