I'm 19 yrs old and i live at home with my parents. I really feel like it is time for me to get out of there. I just feel like i've outgrown it and want to be more independent. I go to school and have a part-time job. I would be able to afford an apartment with my boyfriend and a friend. Do you think i'm still too young?
2007-10-19 07:34:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No do it. Its normal to feel that impatient feeling in your stomach. You're definetely not too young and at least you're not a bum...i mean u are in school and work. It'll be harder than u think tho, thats all i can say. Get an apartment wit some girlfriends is my suggestion. Trust me, moving in w/ a boyfriend is not as cool as it sounds.
2007-10-19 07:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by crzy/beautfl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no no you are at an age where independance is a must... Its just that living with the boyfriend and a friend seems a little out landish is the point of are you having regular sex? And how will this situation worki out with your boy friend.... you know the grass always looks greener at first and than when things dont go your way hey its not so nice anymore... Just know this is what you want and the three of you have to agree to the arangement first hand before you make the commitment... Good luck Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-10-19 07:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not too young to move out you are an adult. But it sounds like you are not prepared to move out. Being old enough is not the same as being prepared.
Do you take care of yourself 100% right now? That means you pay rent, food, utilities, all bills or what would be your portion of the bills ? and if you do can you still afford to pay your school? You can't expect your parents to continue to pay for your school if you move out. If you move out with your boyfriend and a friend will you have the time, energy and focus to continue school. Or will you and your boyfriend start to play the role of "happily married", (which you arent' but thats another question).
So to answer your question, you are old enough but it does not sound like you have really thought it out and are not really prepared for moving out. I would say stay home, finish school, so you are preapred and when you make that move it's for real. Do you really want to have to ask your parents to take you back and admit to them you could not make it on your own?
2007-10-19 07:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by Average Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are too young, no!
What concerns me is that you are ready to move from one dependant situation right into another.
You will be fooling yourself if you think you will be independant. Instead will will shift your dependance from your parents to your boyfriend, and your friend.
I am not saying that your boyfriend is abusive, but what would you do if, in about a years time, he started drinking, or doing drugs, & he started beating on you. If you were afraid to move back home with your parents, then you would feel trapped wouldn't you?
It may seem inconceivable to you right now, but that is EXACTLY what happens to so many young women like you these days. Their boyfriends curb their abusive behaviour until he gains their trust enough to move in with him, & then gradually he cuts her off from her support system until she is trapped, & he can then go whole hog abusive on her.
Now I am not trying to predict your future for you, but I am saying that you would have a better chance if you waited until you are able to stand on your own two feet. Then you will have so much confidence in your ability to fend for yourself, that NO MAN will be able to succeed in trapping you.
You are 19yrs old, so it's not a question of your age. It's a question of your preparedness.
Move out when you really have your independance!
2007-10-19 07:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, I moved out when I was 14 with two jobs and went to school full time. If I can do it at 14 you can do it now. There is no reason for you to still be living with your parents anyway, you are over 18 and need to start your own life.
2007-10-19 08:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me when I say this, get an apartment with two friends and let your boyfriend find his own place.
You are not too young to be on your own--not at all--but have some fun being a single (non-married) girl while you can. There is plenty of time in the future to move in with your b/f.
Best Wishes!
2007-10-19 07:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by joellemoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take my advice...stay home as long as you can while going to college and working...I have lived on my own since out of high school and it sucks paying these bills alone...it definitely changes you into a person you do not want to become...enjoy your young years while you can and make sure you are financially stable to own something of your own instead of wasting your hard earned dollars on renting...you can still help your parents out at home with some bills but at least you wont be paying a arm and a leg and will be able to concentrate in school without having to worry about money.
2007-10-19 09:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on where you live. If you live in NY you probably wont be able to afford it. See how much an apt is and utilities etc- then see how much you make. Do the math- if it works go for it! If not youre probably going to have to wait a few years!
2007-10-19 07:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by twons517 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. But it will be a lot harder than you think it is. Just make sure that the people you are moving in with are trustworthy and you can count on them to do their part financially and help keep the place clean and stuff.
2007-10-19 07:45:23 · answer #9 · answered by Air Guitar Goddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not.
It's great to be independent and learn what living in the world is all about.
whatever your decision, i wish you all the best! take care
2007-10-19 07:43:19 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋