What is my ex girfriend trying to do???

Question

What does it mean when my ex girlfriend asks my friend for my phone number?...We talked and everything was cool. We talked like nothing even happened, it felt natural. She says she wants to hang out..blah blah blah. hasnt seen me in a long time. its nice to here from me...yada yada. She tells me to call her before I come up. I get a phone call from her a week and half later. I tell her that im coming up next weekend. She tells me that she gave our cat to someone. She goes into details about a dude she has been seeing at work and says she wont be around this weekend becasuse she is going camping with her boyfriend.

Why do I need to know that??? lol. Why would u tell me that?? Is she nuts? i didnt contact her, i text her 2 weeks later and said "whats up?" she responded..."do you need something?"
i dont get it. We went out for 5 years and have been apart for 7 months now. Keep in mind too that SHE asked one of my friends "So I hear he's got a Girlfriend now?" that's how it began.I don't!

She is the one who dumped me...if that matters. I dont think she is trying to make me jealous though because then she would be calling all the time right???

The only thing I did was ask HER SISTER how the cat was and if i could see it. Her sister offered the cat to me...then my ex- girfriend ran into my friend and she said "oh have him call me" I didn't and SHE was the one to ask for my number. I eventually text her and she called me and we had the above conversation. Other than that I have not contacted her once.

Oh and after she asked "do you need something..i texted back "just saying hi".. she didnt answer back and havent talked sense that was 3 weeks ago.

I'm 25 now and she is 22. We met when she was 17. We both lost our virginity to one another.

She did say that when we broke up that she didnt regret being with me

Answer 1

she playing a game with you. she wants you as a freind and friend only right now.. ( keep you a arms lenght) if whatever she us working on falls she has you to fall back on.. at least your a freind. That why she told you about the boyfreind so you will know she has someone but its not all that... not yet anyway. 5 years is a long time to forget.

Answer 2

It sounds to me like she is confused. I dont quite know what to tell you cause i dotn know her personally and all girls act differently and express their emotions and feelings differently. The best advice I can give to you is to tell her you want to talk about something and then ask her what that was all about but make it clear that you have no problem with her. I know how hard it is sometimes to talk to someone, especially in this situation, my friend found it too uncomfortable to do with her ex/hook up so she sent him an anonomous message using http://hikkup.com asking what was going on between them, be said h was just so confused and really couldn't help himself from calling her. I wish you the best of luck and if you need anything dont hesitate to message me on here. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 3

If you were that serious for that long, I suppose it's hard for her to completely get over you.

My guess is she has her up and down moments. She called you during a down moment and it helped to talk almost like old times; then she realized it wasn't healthy for her current relationship, so she's trying to back off.

I don't think it's mind games, so much as she is confused. Maybe she wasn't sure about that other guy yet. Maybe they had a fight. Maybe after your chat, she remembers what it is that split you up. Whatever, she' trying to stay distant now.

Answer 4

I think she still feels some emotional attachment to you. After all, you were each other's first at lovemaking. Maybe she isn't trying to get you jealous, but she is definitely discombobulated with her emotions. If you have no feelings for her, try not to let it get to you. If you do have feelings for her, perhaps it is time that you discuss the situation. Communication is key. Have a great day.

Answer 5

She is trying to act like she has things under control and trying to make it seem like you are the one chasing her... don't reply to her messages, don't call her, if she sends you a text, email or call, don't return it or pick it up, move on, if you have a GF or not, it's none of her business. Relax, she is young and trying to keep her options open, I can assure you she is still in love with you, like i sais, she wants to keep her agenda open

Answer 6

Sounds like she just likes to jerk the chain. She feels like she can still control you. You are better off with some one who is more stable in their dealings with people. Find someone who doesn't have this type of personality problems. Your life will be miserable if you continue trying to figure out this person.

DUMP HER FROM YOUR LIFE. There are lots of really nice, stable people out there looking for other nice stable people. Find them.

Answer 7

She's talking about her boyfriend basically letting you know that she is in a relationship so you shouldn't try anything funny. Unless she says something like "I hate my boyfriend and want to leave him" just by bringing him up like that suggests he's not interested. Do yourself a huge favour:

www.doubleyourdating.com
or
www.sosuave.net

and NEXT her and move on!

Answer 8

Honestly I think she's just trying to make you jealous. If you want her back. Betcha you could get her. Let me know if you need some tips... Women are all the same : )

Answer 9

Sounds like she is playing head games with you-time to move on and put her in the past.

Answer 10

Wow, that's a brain buster.

This chick is crazy..drop her before she causes more drama than needed.

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