Whenever our daughter has a bad dream, she comes into our room. She used to wake us up, but now she just brings a pillow, blanket and her stuffed monkey with her and lays on the floor without saying a word.
Wife and I were about to have sex around 2 a.m. when she fortunately saw our daughter on the floor. I'm paranoid that she's going to either walk in on us one night or we'll forget to check the floor and she'll be tramatized for life.
It seems mean to tell her not to come in our room, but then you can't exactly explain to a kid you don't want her to catch you having sex. Advice?
2007-10-19 06:46:35 · 57 answers · asked by Ras C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Put a motion sensor alarm outside her bedroom door, so youll know if she left her room and headed your way. Put the bell thingy next to your bed and set it to just beep once or twice.
*Edit- you should know if shes out roaming the house at night anyway, even if she isnt going to your room, and this will let you know.
2007-10-19 06:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Learning Conformity 5 · 6⤊ 7⤋
I'm not sure the age of you daughter but if she is coming into your room so much that you are worry ...then it my be too much. ever child needs to sleep all night in there own bed. It isn't good for them to be coming into your room at night. If it is only a now and then thing them I would just lock the door before you do anything But if it is happening more than once a month. Then maybe a baby gate for her bed room so that she will learn to stay in her room. I know it sounds mean but it is better for them to be a little upset than letting it become a habit. If she wakes in the night she may call out for you if so just go and put her back in bed and tell her she has to sleep in her room. If it is night mare like you said then there maybe something else going on. why is she having night mares? I think this is what I would be worried about. How often are they happening? has something happened to her? Most kids don't have night mares often enough for it to be a worry. If she is having them so often that your worried maybe it is time to find out why. Talk to her maybe she is afraid of the dark. Or the noises she hears these things can be fixed easy enough with a nightlight or music playing lightly on the radio. If she won't talk to you then you need to take her to the doctor.
I hope this helps.
2007-10-19 07:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by terisa s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ouch Tough scenario,
I wouldn't just simply suggest Lock your door like 50 other people have simply said, what if there were an emergency or she was terrified after her bad dream? I'm sure you have already thought about locking the door and have your own reasons why you don't want to do that, I would just let your daughter know its OK to come in if she's scared but ask her to start knocking just so you know she's there, depending on her age I'm sure she'll understand. By your description I'm guessing she's 6-12?
Good Luck
2007-10-19 06:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by ▒Bella▒ 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I can't believe the people who said to lock the door got thumbs down. You should lock the door. Just lock it before you have sex and then unlock it when you are done. And if you are waking up at 2 am to have sex, it probably isn't so wild that she would be traumatized if you forgot to look and see if she was on the floor and she probably wouldn't even wake up, but I can understand that you don't want her in there. But if you got up to lock the door first, you would notice if she was in there.
2007-10-19 08:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You forgot to include how old your daughter is. Start teaching her to knock -and wait for an answer before entering. Of course nightmares will probably scare her so bad she won't be thinking of knocking, but in time she will. And if she is young enough, she won't be traumatized. Most likely she will ask, 'what are you doing?' Then you can say, hugging mommy or tickling mommy. Something that she can relate to. And get a lock.
2007-10-19 07:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand... the answer couldnt just be to lock the door like everyone seems. I wouldnt want to lock my door if I had a 3 year old who slept in another room. Period. But maybe you lock the door while having sex and then unlock it when you get done. Just tell her to knock hard if she tries to open and its locked.
2007-10-19 17:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off you are only having sex, not committing executions in your bed room. Even if your daughter walks in on you, chances are that she is way too young to be traumatized for life by seeing you. There is nothing wrong with telling your child to knock first before she comes into your room because that is your room, not hers. It is never too early to start teaching a child to respect others and their privacy, because as a father of 2 girls I know that as they get older they definately want as much privacy as they can get.
2007-10-19 07:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by scrogger63 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
freaking out about it and making a big scene will probably traumatize her more than actually seeing you and your wife in the act.if she is sleeping just keep the noise down.if she walks in have your wife clamly walk her back to her room and explain that mommy and daddy need a time out.you may not want to hear this but dont give your daughter any kind of negative feelings about sex or she will carry those with her through life.you want her to have as good a sex life as you and your wife right?
2007-10-19 07:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
either put a bell on a string on her door knob or yours. another option is to get a motion detector night light. it will come on when she enters the room, alerting you that she's on the prowl. the other option (and probably most practical) have sex right after you put her to bed. she has just fallen asleep and won't have had time to start dreaming yet. so the chance of a nightmare is incredibly slim, given the nature of the human sleep cycle.
2007-10-19 14:44:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't lock the door, that would cause your child to scream and bang on your door as if something is wrong.
If your child is old enough, maybe you should teach her to knock or to wake you or your wife up if/when she comes in the room then usher her back to her own bed.
Either that or have nookie a wee bit earlier...like right after the kids go to bed. :o))
2007-10-19 07:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by Aundrea 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you don't say how old your daughter is but what I've found that works for me is to teach my daughter that when mommy and daddys door is closed, to knock and wait for one of us to come to the door. Or you can lock your door, have sex, then unlock the door when your finished.
You can also use a baby gate if shes not old enough to climb over it or take it down. If shes asleep and you all have sex, then your probably not going to wake her or disturb her at all.
2007-10-19 07:07:33 · answer #11 · answered by llllll_amanda_lllllll 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋