we have been together for about 3mths ruffly his birthday is in a week. i love him love his personality every thing. we talk to each other like we no one another a long long while and are very good friends. he told me he loves me and i told him back and is really beliving that he means it.he told me that he wants us to last for ever and that came out of his mouth on a serious note. we talk to each other everyday we see each other 3 times a week due to my strick home and he always shows up. i could call him anytime and tell him to meet me and he would come. i have been at his home already didnt see the parents because i told him i wasnt ready he is not forcing me or anything he just spoke about it and i agreed that i would do it with him then he told me[not that same day eh] he would rent a room and it was up to me if i want to do it or not. i really want to do it with him but i dont know if i am making a miss take i need am answer fast
2007-10-19 06:44:51 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex for the first time would be a wonderful gift for him, but only if you want to and you feel as though you are ready for it.
You asking this question makes me think that you're not.
He may be a wonderful guy, but that doesn't mean you are going to be together forever. People change and that's not a bad thing! People grow apart. Their wants and needs change. That said I think that it is somewhat rare for relationships that begin in the teenage years to last.
There are other ways to show him you love him (see 101 Ways to Make Love Without Doin' It, below). Those are pretty chaste examples. If your hormones are in control and it has to be sexual, there are plenty of things you can do that don't involve intercourse. Oral sex being highest on the list I'm sure. (For both of you, a link to tips below.) Even just 'heavy petting' or masturbation.
I am not preaching no sex here, but if you are iffy about sex, you shouldn't do it. It may only come back to haunt you. You should be able to speak openly about sex, STD's and pregnancy. If you can't, then please reconsider.
Above all, be safe!!!!! Good luck Honey, trust yourself to make the right decision for YOU!
2007-10-19 09:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by Girl 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No one can tell you to have sex or not. By the sounds of it...you are a virgin. I am telling you this from experience...your virginity is a precious thing, and if I knew then what I know now...then I would have waited. You should wait until you truely are in love, and let it MEAN something...cuz kids now a days just think its something to do to be cool...and I used to think the same way...until I wised up. There is a difference, a HUGE difference in just having sex and making love...
I hope you make the right decision for yourself...and if you are going to--please use protection. And do some research on stds cuz I didn't know half of the stuff out there and God has really blessed me by watching over me...and if you decide that you aren't ready, and he decides to break up with you for that--then thats all he wanted in the first place. And you deserve better than that..and you don't need him. Good luck!
2007-10-19 06:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by Shae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is only meant for you if you are over 18. If you are underage you should NOT have sex. With that said. If you are old enough, you need to search yourself for the answer. If it doesn't feel right to you then you shouldn't do it. Don't ever do anything you are uncomfortable doing. He can wait his little happy @$$ until you are ready. If he truly loves you he would never pressure you into doing something that you don't want to do. Just be sure you aren't teasing him and then not giving him any because that's not right either. Just be safe, use protection, you have the rest of your life to think about, so don't get careless.
2007-10-19 06:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mere fact that you are questioning it means you shouldn't. Only have sex when YOU are ready. Just because it is is birthday doesn't give him the right to take something from you. You also sound kinda young....so that's another reason I don't think you should do it. If he pressures you and plays games about it, then he can't truly love you. Sorry, but it is true.
Bottom line: if you aren't 100% sure you want to, then there is a reason. Don't do it.
2007-10-19 06:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by emeraldinthedust 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're doubtful enough that you need to poll a bunch of strangers, then you're not ready. Find him something else for his birthday and wait a little longer to make sure that you aren't going to have any regrets. If his feelings are sincere and he genuinely doesn't want to pressure you - in other words, if he's the kind of guy you should be doing this with at all - he'll understand.
2007-10-19 06:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continued from above - insert between Conclusion and first main paragraph Second of all, Sex does not mean you love someone, nor is it necessarily just something people in love do. The purpose of sex is to create a baby. After all, the guy goes in to the female, sends some fluids down to the egg, and then the baby is created. That is the sole purpose of sex. Sure it is pleasurable, but sex is not intended for one's own selfish uses of their own pleasure. Its only purpose is to create a baby. Also, given that it is possible for you two to break up at some point in the future and if you do have sex with this guy. You are saying (because actions speak louder than words) that your true husband does not deserve your virginity because you claim to be in 'love' with the guy you are with now. Unless you believe that your husband whom you want to have children with should be the 2nd, 6th, 10th, or 37th (as one person said on Yourtango) down the list, while your true husband is a virgin waiting for you (yes there are still men virgins out there). From what I've read from first account stories is that those people regretted losing their virginity to someone who was not their husband, even if their husbad did also lose their virginity to another. They all claimed that they wish they have saved their sexual gift for the man whom they would truly love.
2016-03-13 01:57:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are making a huge mistake! First and foremost you should continue your education. By the way you write you are in serious need of an education. How can you say that you are in love with someone after only three months. You did not state your age, but it seems that you are at a young stage of your life. Having sex is a huge step and carries heavy consequences. My advice is for you to wait, if he really loves you like he say, then he will have no problem waiting
2007-10-19 06:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by charles c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready, you're not ready and DONT do anything you're not ready to do. If he really loves you he will understand and won't pressure you. And don't believe the BS if he tells you that if you really love him you'll do it. Most guys say that just to get in your pants....most girls who let guys get in their pants can't seperate sex from love and end up getting hurt.
How old are you by the way? I hope old enough to understand the possible consequences of sex - and at least the legal age to be considered an adult which in most states is 18.
2007-10-19 06:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by beast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make sure you are doing this because you want to and not because he talked you into it. The funny thing about boys and they want this to last forever? Forver sometimes comes right after they have sex with the girl they just told they want this to last forever. Talking to each other and seeing each other three times a week (where is he the other four times during that week???) means nothing. Absolutely nothing cause if he loved you as much as he claimed he would be doing everything he could to see you every day. So move forward with caution cause something here stinks
2007-10-19 06:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by dave n 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is a good guy, if you want to be sure, ask him to wait a week or two after his birthday. If he does, then go for it as long as your ready and he isn't pressuring you too much.
Of course this is all if your older than 16. If your younger I would tell you to wait... but that's up to you.
2007-10-19 06:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by soccerpsychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋