My boyfriend only lives 5 minutes from my job. I called him and asked him if he felt like bringing me something to eat and he said "nope". He was out running to the bank anyway.
I cook at least 3 to 4 times a week and he comes over for dinner when I cook.
2007-10-19 06:29:37 · 43 answers · asked by Ari's Mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't have asked him a question where nope could have been an answer. You did ask if he felt like it. He gave you an honest answer.......
Don't keep score in a relationship. You will only be dissapointed. You cook because you want to not because you are going to use it against him to see if he will do things for you. If you expect something from someone, you usually will be dissapointed when you don't get it.
Try to let it go, it really shouldn't be a big deal. If it is, I suggest talking to him about it. Tell him your feelings, don't assume he knows what they are.
Good luck,
Stevo.
2007-10-19 06:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! That is a hard blow. Or I don't know maybe because I'm pregnant right now and totally emotional that would have set me off into a river of tears.
What if you get your own lunch and when you talk to him again say that one of your co-workers bought you lunch and it was sooooooo goooood? Making him a little jealous is ok, but just a little. And then next time you make dinner-----do it for one for a few days. If he says anything then say you had a late lunch and you're not hungry or you're just gonna have a small salad or sandwich or something. He'll get the point.
I mean even if he does have to go to the bank, the bank is open all day. That was not nice of him, I'm sorry, I'm feeling for you. Be mad. Get even. Paybacks are a b---h!
I hate to sound so mean, I promise I'm not. (It's just the hormones---y.right...) But I hope you have a great rest of the day and a great lunch no matter where it comes from! :o)
2007-10-19 06:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by texicangirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he have something else to do that prevented him from doing you the favor on the way to or from the bank? Was he just being a butthead? No way to really tell because I dont know him. If it were me I would cut him some slack this time but if it happened again I would confront him about it. Bringing you lunch is a loving thing to do but guys dont always put two and two together and often dont see how their action or the lack thereof speak louder than their words. It is our job as the more nuturing of the species to help them with this. If you find that your feelings are really hurt by this event and you just cant let it go then say something about what it would have meant to you to have him help you out in this way but really in the grand scheme of things this is probably just a drop in the bucket. GOOD LUCK
2007-10-19 06:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by livelongandprosper2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one ever knows how a person is thinking or feeling at the moment they are living it. He could have had bad news or he could have been upset with you about something & didn't want to get into it while you were at work. I'd let it go for now. You could ask after work & say something like " it would have been really nice to see you earlier, I'm sorry you couldn't come". That might be enough to open the communication & see what really happened from his perspective. He might have been having a crap day & needed the space or didn't want to ruin your day. You don't know till you ask. Good luck.
2007-10-19 06:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by Nice one 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think you should be mad that he didn't bring you food... But I do think you should be mad at the way he told you he wouldn't.
If he only lives five minutes away, is going to be out of the house anyway, and says "nope" in such a matter-of-fact way... he is being rude. Very rude, and very inconsiderate. I think you should tell him that when he said he wouldn't bring you food, it made you feel hurt and unappreciated because you prepare food for him on a fairly regular basis. Tell him you wish that he could be more considerate and that you'd like for him to do something nice for you every once in a while so that you feel appreciated.
2007-10-19 06:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by prestigieuxlavie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both. You are not wrong for being upset. But you shouldn't hang on to it either. If this was the first time...
If this happens all the time, then I would skip the letting go part, and talk to him about it. Relationships should be 50/50 and if you do a lot for him during the week, then he should do just as much for you.
2007-10-19 06:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's rude, and rudeness is not aceptable, ever. Sometimes I don't feel like doing certain things but if my (non-existent) girlfriend asked then I'd do them. A relationship is not always about pleasing yourself.
Ask him why he said no. If it was just because he didnt feel like it then tell him he's not being fair and that it upset you. If he doesn't react to this in a positive way then you need to take a look at where your relationship is going.
2007-10-19 06:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by Pete 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends if he was busy then i would just say let it go but if he was just being lazy and did not want to bring you anything then yes, you have a right to be upset i mean you cook for him and he can't do anything as simple as bringing you something to eat!
2007-10-19 06:34:40 · answer #8 · answered by Kasja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be mad because if you cook dinner and he comes to eat a free meal every week and you ask him to get you something to eat for one day. When he comes to eat over your house don't give himm anything.
2007-10-19 06:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by Denise B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he was busy at the time, but I think his rather callous "nope" would have been enough to make me angry. Not to mention he sounds like a freeloader coming over and eating the food you prepare...you might want to reconsider letting this fish go.
2007-10-19 06:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋