I have been dating this guy for 7 years and we have three kids.. through out this relationship he has accused me of sleeping with other people. I'm not sleeping with anyone...including him! I have a lot of guy friends... why does he accuse me? is it wrong that I have guy friends? Or is this just a bad relationship?
2007-10-19 06:25:48 · 5 answers · asked by lissa034715 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not sleeping with him because that's all he cares about.. it is possible to abstain without straying... I don't need sex to survive.. yea I like it, but it's not a must have. I feel that it clouds the issue.
2007-10-19 06:50:47 · update #1
Sounds like a bit of all the above. There is nothing wrong with having strickly friends of the opposite sex. Perhaps he has been in past relationships where his partner was unfaithful and hasn't learnt how to deal with this to date. Or maybe he is just self sabotaging this relationship so it will not work. Only way I suppose to truly get to the bottom of it is to sit down with him and have a mature and open minded conversation about why he feels this way. Put all your cards on the table and allow him to do the same. Then you two can decide if indeed this relationship is worth attempting to save or if it would be best to close this chapter of your lives and move on and try and find someone else who might make you happier in a relationship.
2007-10-19 06:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a control issue... but why aren't you sleeping with him? Not that you aren't allowed to abstain, but you've been with him 7 years and have 3 kids and randomly you stop wanting sex?
That might be where the nerves are coming from if he isn't a naturally possessive boyfriend.
2007-10-19 13:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by Kristen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you having guy friends is always going to draw his attention. IT should be fine as long as you arent really close to any of them. Another thing is if he isnt gettting any, he will probably assume you are geeting it somewhere else. No sex is not healthy for a relationship. In fact, i think your probably cheating just because you said you arent having sex at all, thats unrealistic. Either you have no sex drive, or your cheating, either way, your a a bad partner.
2007-10-19 13:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by billgoats79 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's retarded and when you find a way to ditch his crazy **** let me know so I can get rid of my retard with the same issues!
2007-10-19 16:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the next time you have a baby get a wedding ring first.
2007-10-19 13:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl W 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋