When My cousin Passed away I posted a picture of him on my myspace as a memorial My cousin saw it freaked out told my aunt who yelled at me to take it off So i did Well Now 2 years later My baby cousin was just born and they refuse to send me pictures cause of sumthing i did 2 years ago is this totally wrong?
2007-10-19 06:25:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is all very sad.
You did something you felt was honoring his memory and expressing your grief. (I'm assuming the picture you used, and what you did with it were appropriate -- not some picture that made him look bad or something.)
They took it in some completely different way than you intended (which is puzzling to those of us reading your question).
So, it was a misunderstanding. You didn't realize they'd take offense; they have misunderstood your intentions.
So communicate with them.
Explain that it never ocurred to you that trying to honor your cousin would hurt their feelings, but now that you know how they feel about pictures of them and theirs, you would never put another picutre of any of them on your myspace again.
The last thing you'd ever want to do is hurt them again, as you unintentionally did before.
Then say that you would love to see pictures of your new little cousin, and you promise you won't upload them to the Internet.
That's all you can do.
2007-10-19 08:23:43 · answer #1 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it was a wonderful thing that you put up a memorial of your cousin on my space.
Your family is apparently in denial over your cousin's death and scared of it all, otherwise, they would never have demanded you take the picture off my space.
You can't contol the twisted thoughts and stupidity of others. No use trying.
I'm sorry you can't see your baby cousin.... however, please accept it for now and move forward in your life.
Taking care of you is very important.
2007-10-19 14:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was in their place I would have been grateful that you posted the memorial, I don't think that it is right to deny you pictures of your new cousin. Maybe they are still greiving, but that does not give them the right to deny you the right to post the memorial. Good luck and God bless
2007-10-19 13:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by pitbull1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surely there's something more to this story. Call or visit them and ask them why they are taking this stance. Tell them you are sorry for offending them, but it was never your intention. Tell them you'd like to put it behind you and be part of the family again. If that's all it is... they are being unreasonable.
2007-10-19 13:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋