Ok so I'm turning 21 in a month I had planned on going to vegas with my live in boyfriend of almost 3 yrs but sh!t happens and we couldn't save up enough money to really go and have a GREAT time so my mom was like what if I pay for it and well all go and have a blast well that's cool with me cuz my mom is like my best friend and I can do whatever I want in front of her basically so here's the problem now his parents who live in CA want to come cuz they haven't seen him in over a year mind u they've put no effort into seeing him or flying out here this whole year my mom bought us a house and his parents said they couldn't afford to help out with any furnishings at all then turned around n took the other son to hawaii in may and his whole family to went and then they took them to mexico in august but told my bf they couldn't afford to come see him here in Ga or help with the house. So they wanna meet in vegas and if it were just dinner that's fine but they're gunna stay both days were there and I just don't wanna kick it with the in laws (who don't like me to begin with) for my 21rst. Oh but wait there's more my grandparents who look down their nose at me cuz I have my own ideas and opinions that thjey don't agree with, but they worship other crackhead jailbirds in the family, want to go and that just baffles me so now I would rather sit home than deal with the drama and bs but it is my 21rst and I only get one of those so what do I do?
2007-10-19 06:21:42 · 13 answers · asked by Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Pick a different destination, there are many other large gambling & show cities you can go to & enjoy!
If his parents wish to visit let it be on their own dime & for the right reasons!
2007-10-19 06:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by thistlesnshamrocks 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because your boyfriend's parents are going to be in las vegas, doesn't mean you have to spend every minute with them. Stay in your own room mornings and relax if you want to. It's YOUR trip too... you can make arrangements for dinner or a concert or whatever a couple times.
If your boyfriend's parents planned a trip with his brother to Hawaii, well, it's their money and they can do whatever they like with it. They may not have it in their budget to buy your furniture.. and WHY would you want someone else to pay your way anyhow? I don't understand this...
If they don't like you, just accept it. Gather your dignity and act like a lady. Perhaps eventually, when they get to know you, this will change.
If your boyfriend and his parents have not seen each other in a year, it's not your problem -- they will get together when they can. This isn't a big issue, unless YOU make it one.
Your grandparents also have a right to their own opinion, and so do you. If they don't like your ideas, it's not the end of the world. All people do not agree every moment of existance. Just accept it.
You really seem to allow others to control your emotions and feelings. You are worrying about what other people do, say and how they act. Why not just live and let live? You can never control anyone else, so don't try.
This is quite a lot of drama, and i feel you are making mountains from molehills, because you want to control others instead of just accepting them, and then moving on with life.
this is what you do -- look forward to a nice trip and good birthday. before you know it you will be 50, and will have wasted your entire adulthood letting others control your emotions.
2007-10-19 13:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy God! That is the longest sentence or question I have read in a long time. It is time for you and your boyfriend to stand up on your own feet and pay for your own expenses. If you don't want to see all these people, then don't go to Vegas. Instead, stay home, find a job, and study English grammar and composition.
2007-10-19 13:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thats a hard one, but I think you should just talk to your boyfriend and explain to him that you dont want his parents going. See if he can talk them out of it. Your grandparents is a whole different story!!! I would just sit down and ask them why they would want to go. See what they say and the rest is really up to you. If they disagree with you all the time, then just suck up your pride and tell them I dont want you there.
2007-10-19 13:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by drummingismylife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with everyone, tell them that its YOUR birthday, not an excuse to take a trip to Vegas. Tell your in-laws that this is supposed to be your trip with your mother and boyfriend, and that if they want to see him, they are going to have to plan a seperate trip. Tell your grandparents the same thing, this is YOUR birthday, dont let others ruin it for you! Good luck!
2007-10-19 13:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by sweetbby931 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Celebrate your 21st at home with your boyfriend and go to Vegas when you can pay for it on your own. Then you will be able to have a trip that you will enjoy on your own terms, not everyone else's.
2007-10-19 13:26:22 · answer #6 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shoud stay away from the west and go somewhere else. Try and 3 or 4 day cruise. They have really great last minute deals.
2007-10-19 13:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by Cheryl L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, remember what i am suggesting is diplomacy, not lying. i would tell everyone the trip is cancelled. then you, bf, and mom magically manage to pull it all off the day before you were supposed to leave for vegas and didn't have time to call and tell everyone. then it's just the 3 of you. sneaky, yet effective without hurting anyone's feelings....ta da!
2007-10-19 13:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by Heather Honey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go somewhere else w/out telling everyone else but your mom. tell everyone else 'oops, sorry, that plan didn't work for us...we'll have to get together some other time.' i realize you won't get your vegas trip, but you'll still get a trip, with just your mom, as you want. how about a cruise?
2007-10-19 13:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by SweetPandemonium 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You go, you ignore the inlaws and the grandparents, this is your day, and you have FUN!!!!! It won't be the easiest thing in the world, but you'll regret not going if you don't, and you'll resent them even more if you don't. So go, have a blast!!!!
2007-10-19 13:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by J R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋