Hi, there's this guy that I really like. I think he has a good heart but he is not living his life right. He goes clubbing and drinks when his buddies ask him out, & he wasn't raised going to church so continues not to go.
it's like he has an idea of what is right & wrong but embraces the wrong more.
What is the best approach to introduce someone to Christ without shoving religion down their throat??
Please help!
2007-10-19 06:03:38 · 22 answers · asked by APPLE 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just a lil 411...i don't see anything here that would lead someone to think that i'm on a "high horse" & YES there is a right & wrong way to live your life according to the bible, whether you like it or not.
2007-10-19 06:26:57 · update #1
You could invite him to go with you to your church.
2007-10-19 06:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by ♫O Praise Him♫ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Problem is, there just isn't anything easy about it. If you want to lead him to Christ, at some point you are going to have to call him on how he is leading his own life, and make the suggestion that letting Somebody Else lead it would be better.
While this is true, he won't like it. God made guys with strength, and it is a terriffic asset, but it also creates problems with God that most gals don't have (to the same degree). They want to do things their own way, and usually, they have to realize they have come to the end of themselves before they are willing to allow Christ to lead them.
If he has an idea of what is right and wrong, and embraces the wrong more, then he would be about your average human being. So if you really want to be a Christlike example to him, you might stop with the idea that you are better than him. He probably won't like that either.
Most people respond to an invitation. So just be there. If you really *like* him, as a Christian woman, I would advise you to guard your heart, mind and body, until he is on the same track as you. Don't participate with him in things you know are wrong, and encourage the things you see are right. Try to see him how Jesus sees him. But until he is willing to submit his life to Christ, he will not be a suitable boyfriend or husband.
I know many women who were Christians when they married men who were not. I was one of them, and I was one of the lucky ones, I only had to wait 18 years for my husband to have that willingness. I have two friends who have been married in excess of 40 years to men who don't know Christ. One's husband has recently become a Christian, the other is still waiting and praying. If you don't think this is signing up for a lifetime of misery, I have some news for you. It is. These women are torn in half because their mate, the one man they have loved on this earth above all others is not going to heaven with them.
Even when they do finally become Christians, the waiting is not over. Then you have to wait for them to grow in Christ. Because it is not an overnight thing for a man to give up control of his life and immediately become a better person, husband, lover, employee, etc....To perfect his temper, or lust, or whatever problem is his sin of choice, takes the rest of his life.
Furthermore, it takes the focus off of you. Well, this feels good for a while, but it also stagnates your growth.
I'm sure that was more than enough. Blessings.
2007-10-19 13:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be honest, it is not that good to witness to a guy you like -
you can't mix romance with teaching someone.
It can lead to trouble. The best thing to do is NOT
get emotionally involved with someone who does
not have strong faith in God. Find someone who already
does and it will be a much better type of relationship.
As far as his soul goes, yes pray and encourage him some.
Pray that another Christian guy can witness to him.
If he becomes a Christian, then he needs time to
grow in Christ for, say, a year, before dating
anyone. That is really the best way to go!
Be a good example. Just tell him you are a Christian
and God has revealed Himself to you in miraculous
ways and that you live your life by God's standard
as much as possible, that God changes people
for the good! Just don't get more involved than you
should or spend too much time with him.
2007-10-19 13:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by Nickel-for-your-thoughts 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your life. When you live a life that glorifies God it is contagious, people can't help but be drawn to the Christ in you. This is why scriptures say that we are salt and light because we should make people desire Christ through the life we live. Sometime your life is the only bible some people will ever read. So just love him and live Christ, he will eventually start asking where he can get some of what you have. No preaching necessary.
2007-10-19 13:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by Millie C 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't see anything wrong with this boy. As long as he doesn't drink too much or do dangerous drugs at the clubs, there's nothing wrong with having fun while you're young. And if he's not interested in religion, you should respect that and not try to change him.
2007-10-19 13:13:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get off your high horse. If he wanted to be 'introduced to christ' he would do it off his own back. Leave him alone, if you cant put up with how HE wants to live his life, move on.
Edit: Please find out what the phrase 'get off your high horse' actually means, you clearly dont understand it. Just because YOU think there is a right and wrong way to live your life according to YOUR religion, does NOT mean that he has to do the same. This is perfect timing for the get off your high horse line again. If you cannot accept he does not want to live life like you, MOVE ON.
2007-10-19 13:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 2⤋
Maybe by your example? Tell him that going to clubs is not a good testimony. Maybe try to get him away from there, and into a Bible study. I think after you talk to him, and get a feel for Him. You can see if he will accept Jesus, or reject Him.
He doesn't sound like a leader to me, following His buddies. That is how all trouble starts. A real man is a leader, and drinking is for losers.
Remeber, the Bible says do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. find some new Christian friends.
2007-10-19 13:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by brian 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Have you invited him to church? Maybe you could make him a CD of Christian music and give that to him - it would open the door for discussion when you ask him how he liked the songs. I think it's great that you're looking for a way to introduce him to Christ - and you're right, "shoving it down his throat" isn't the answer. But neither is "leaving him alone" and never sharing Jesus with him.
2007-10-19 13:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by Linnie 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Pray for him, Claim his Salvation through Jesus Christ, Risen from the Dead.
Then, Pray the Father (in Jesus's Name) to Send Workers across his Path, to get him Saved.
Then, don't Look at how he is Acting AnyMore, Keep your Eyes on What GOD Said, and The Word will not come back Void!
And, Praise and Thank GOD EveryDay for his Salvation (no matter how he acts) UNTILL he Accepts Jesus as his Saviour.
It Works!
2007-10-19 13:10:09 · answer #9 · answered by maguyver727 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
lol, you contradict yourself. Let the man make his own decisions. What makes you think you know the difference between good and bad and he doesn't, just because you go to church every sunday.
2007-10-19 13:07:21 · answer #10 · answered by krasnoglaz 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Let him see Christ in you, let him know what Christ has done in your life and share the peace in your heart with him. It is only your job to plant the seed. The rest is up to God
Good luck and God Bless
2007-10-19 13:10:28 · answer #11 · answered by Bride of Christ 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋