Girls, would this be a good way to start showing a girl how u feel?

Question

I asked this yesterday, but im adding a few points.

I have a friend that i just really started to like as more then a friend. We never really hung out outside of school for the 4 years we went and now that she just moved back into the city, weve gone out and seen eachother a few times(movies and eating). Now ive known her for years and just started having the
feelings a month ago. Now the idea i have is the Secret Admirer thing. I was thinking Get a box, attach a love poem to it, and put some flowers in it and leave it at her door for the morning.

i dont wanna just come out and say it. i want to actually show her how i feel instead of tell her.

and i want to do this, or somthing like it a few times before i actually let her know its me.

is this a good idea?
should i change something in the plan?

ty ladies.

Answer 1

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It sounds sweet, I love getting flowers and it's nice to know that someone is thinking of you. My boyfriend now, had a hard time telling me that he liked me, he was afraid of rejection. we had an unplanned date, where we just went out to eat as friends, the next morning, I recieved a huge boquet of a dozen roses, it was beautiful, he had ordered them a week earlier, and had a card attached, telling me how much he would like to get to know me on a more personal level.

I am thinking that when she gets the flowers she will tell you about it, just smile big and tell her, "someone must really think you're special." get her email, or you probably already have her email, and try these links.

if the links are broken you can go to: www.bored.com
then under "romance": click: "Go here for more romance links. " there are a lot of neat ideas on this site also.

drop the hint,
say "I have something I want to tell you" then change the subject.
open the door when you go places
touch her on the small of her back.
brush the hair from her face with your hand.

Little things like these with the secret admirer thing will let her know it was you,without actually coming out to say it. and she may bring it up to you!!

Answer 2

If you really want to show her how you feel, women like men who actually say it out loud, i mean, in front of the lady. They kind of like..brave men. After all, they treat men like their saviour, don't they?

Cards, boxes, flowers..they're all traditional. But nowadays women are more..new-age, no offense. Of course, this isn't always the best idea, since a couple of women still feel traditional is best. So in my opinion, what you should do is that you should keep everything like normal with the girl of your choice, until you find hanging out with her comforting and normal, like a usual, everyday routine. The closer you feel towards her, the easier it is to tell her how you feel. It's ok to feel a little off, or awkward while, or when doing this. But you're human, she's human too. She most likely understands how you feel. Once you start off with the beginning on how you feel about her, she'll be understanding. You guys will have a great time, even if you felt awkward at first.

Later on, you'll laugh about how much trouble you had mustering up the courage to tell her how you feel. I'm sure she has feelings for you too, and it's not too late for anything. Make the right choices in life, and if your mind's set, go for it. But it's never too late for anything. Always give things some time, and ALWAYS give it a try, because you never know what will conclude unless you try.

I hope that works.

Answer 3

yeah u could, but be careful that she doesn't end up thinking these gifts aren't from someone else, leave a clue...

if u want to do the secret admirer thing, then ring the doorbell after leaving the flowers, etc. do it at the same time, every day for about a week or two and then turn up at her door with some flowers at the same time as u had before or tell her to meet u somewhere, in the note with the flowers...

Answer 4

Well the 1 thing that women like, is the truth, simple and honest. When your feelings becomes clear to you, that is when you share with the girl of your choice. Even if she isn't feeling the same way, at least you will know. And if the answer is no, it's ok. No one has ever died of a broken heart, and you won't be the 1st. Trust her judgement as well. Maybe she feels the same way, but you won't ever find out if you don't talk. Remember, women love to talk. Man up, talk to her. Good luck.

Answer 5

I think it's totaly adorable. I would love it, I'm sure she would too! Just make sure that you don't come off to appear like a stalker when you leave the box, and it should all work out. Best of luck hon:D

Answer 6

yeah its a cute idea but dont attach a love poem unless you actually love her!!!! and before you put your self out there make sure she might feel the same way okay?? girls give clues when they like guys!! like: when she laughs at something you said and she gently touches your arm!! or maybe she's always smiling at you when you look at her. soo i hope this helps!!! good luck to you!!

Answer 7

If she won't know who it is, she can asume it's someone else, so another guy might take the credits for it. I love the idea of showing your feelings instead of just speaking, any girl would apreciate that more. But I think it's best if you sign your name, or at least give a clue so that she won't think it's someone else

Answer 8

How Romantic!!! this is a brilliant Idea but is she the kind of person who would rather you just tell her? If she is dont be shy I'm sure she feels the same way about you.Good Luck

Answer 9

What the hell with that secret admirer idea and beleve me man you gotta go get her right now in the high way! You know what I mean. Go get thing on the road.

Answer 10

Sorry, no..

Go to the grocery store, buy some cheap flowers, (2.99/bunch/mixed bouquet.
Ring her doorbell , hand her the flowers,
"these are for you.." " gotta go"

" why?"

" thinking. of you.."

Repeat.. a few days later... add some chocolate turtles...

( this works on me....)