this place has sunk to a new level?

Question

I am more than a little mad right now , so forgive my rant
this young girl comes here asking for some advice ...
http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20071019093117AA7kusg&r=w#Q5cuD2C6UDDOF86_7ZY7n_SDJsTnSAs4X5mgMjPlNp4BmhKiiW3n
but it turns out the girl is only 11 .... which you can find out simply by clicking her profile
please please check peoples profiles before giving advice on extremly sensative matters such as this one
we do not know what she wants to or needs to hear
we are not all trained coucellors and even if we were ( which some of you may be ) a few words on a screen is not enough to be able to do so properly
and although the girl is obviously Christian .... she is still too young for you to be giving her your opinion on what God thinks/does in this situation
please please if you have children of your own ... think what you would say to them
you would most likely say .... dont ask strangers for advice on these things and keep yourself safe

I know Deke
but we have to give the benefit of the doubt in such cases ... and keep children safe

Gawed ... when kids are involved , I dont give a damn about keeping within the rules
do you think an 11 year old is really thinking about being within the rules of YA ?

Answer 1

I agree. I am always cautious when it comes to sensitive questions. Having survived sexual assault, I would direct anyone to seek the help of a professional no matter the age. The unfortunate part is that she is 11. It's hard to filter through the damage that's been done let alone have others place more on top of what you've already been through. A little sensitivity goes a long way. I realize that this is a public forum and also realize that her guardians should be more mindful about who she asks but that's not always possible.

Answer 2

100% in agreement, some of the answers suggest you may have been conned by a wind up. While that is a possibility what does it matter, if there is any doubt at all then surely it's better to assume it's not a wind up and give whatever help you can. What worries me is the number of people who seem to have so much anger inside and no matter what the question have a go at the asker. I'd give you a hug too but at my age it would probably be misinterpreted so a simple Peace instead.

Answer 3

Pangel, I think the "thumbs up" number to your answer is over twenty now. You said the right thing. I would rather be duped by a freak into giving a reasonable answer than to take a chance on misleading a child. There are so many working parents today, and the computer is the babysitter. I have my nine year old girl's settings so that she cannot access anything that is not filtered through my address, to which she does not have the password, nor can she access any chat line, or "Q&A." Not everyone takes those precautions. lol I had to have a grandson change the settings on one of my accounts because it would not let me access a "stud" farm. I am lousy on the computer, but I will pay to stay ahead of the predators.

Answer 4

The only way to keep your children "safe" online is to monitor their every activity. This is the nature of the beast, you're on the same network as every scumbag on the planet.

Your logic doesn't make sense. If she's allowed to read the exact same question asked by someone else, along with all the answers people gave - then why not answers to her own question? In my opinion, if she's old enough to come here of her own free will and ask the question, then she's old enough to read the answers. If her legal guardians think differently, then they shouldn't allow her to be on the internet unsupervised.

Answer 5

The minimum age allowed here is 13. Personally I think that is too young for certain areas, R&S for one, just because of the strong sentiments expressed sometimes. However, I am not curbing my responses and am not going to check every profile for age.

Not my responsibility. Yahoo couldn't run around the block let alone a decent well moderated site, but again, not my problem.

I also find it pretty hard to believe that someone would post that sort of thing here. It smacks of attention seeking to me.

Answer 6

Hello Pangel dear...this is why I don't come on to R&S anymore except on rare occassions. You may know me better as Gemini Rising. I created this new account to get away from all of the hateful emails and so I could stop hiding and be myself on the LGBT section.

R&S, in my opinion, is the most hateful and intolerant section on all of Answers. You see man pitted against man, warring over whose God is better, whose God is the "right" God. People will say the most awful things on here without even thinking--it's terrible. And I can't stand it. That's why I don't come on here anymore, and when I do, I'm very cautious of who I answer and how I do it.

You should drop by LGBT some time. We actually answer questions nicely and we have questions completely irrelevant to LGBT topics because we're so renowned for our answers. We're a very nice, accepting, tolerant group of people...unless you're ignorant. But, then again, ignorance isn't well tolerated anywhere.

((((HUGS))))

Answer 7

Answers isn't a child-friendly place, otherwise there would be an 18+ version for adults. There's currently no way for us to know what advice is appropriate, and I for one am not in the habit of checking the profile behind every question I answer, perhaps Yahoo! Answers should include their profile details in the question.

Answer 8

I don't think it matter how old the girl is if she is asking for help/advice, then people should do their best to give the most acceptable and reasonable answer they, yes, she needs counseling, but if she wants to know what God thinks/does in that situation then there is no need to deny her an answer because of her age.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

what you are asking for is more than you will ever get in here.

However, your answer was a good intervention - you said what needed to be said. All you can do is hope that she can sort the wheat from the chaff. She's a Christian - she should understand that concept.