well me and boyfriend started dating in april.and now we are in our 6 month and we had sex in our 4th.i feel soo close to him and i really do love him.he mean soo much to me.is it wrong for us to have sex now?
2007-10-19 05:43:24 · 56 answers · asked by LaShar.Baybee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my book- NO, it is not ok. It is only ok to have sex with your husband. Since he is not your husband, it is not OK.
But it really is too late to ask now- you already had sex and there is nothing you can do about that.
2007-10-19 05:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋
Your question is confusing. You say you have been dating for 6 mos and that you want to know if it is ok to have sex when you have dated for 6 mos yet you mention that you already had sex at month 4. So if you already had sex 2 mos ago what is the hold up on having sex now? If you have waited and are thinking if you have sex now it must be love then be warned.... many women confuse sex with love. many men think sex is just sex. so be clear what the motives behind the act are no matter whether you have been having sex in month 4 or you are just now considering having sex in month 6 - the time doesnt matter as much as what the act of sex will mean to the both of you as far as the relationship goes. think before you act.
2007-10-19 05:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by livelongandprosper2000 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on a lot of things.
Your age, whether you were ready or not.etc. You said you've already had sex - well it's bit late to be wondering if it's right! Did you feel ready? he didn't pressurise you into it? and you're not a minor (under 16) then there isn't a problem. And of course you've both discussed birth control and STD's.
Without wanting to sound patronising (because there are a lot of people out there who don't use protection) you need to be using something. Until you know that someone is clean - i.e. they don't have STD's you should always use a condom. Read up on the risks if you are unsure.
2007-10-19 05:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by morwenna 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you asking the question 2 months after the fact. It sounds to me like you already made the decision. The question should have been... is it ok to have sex with a guy you have dated for only 4 mths. Just how old are you and how old is he?
Getting the feeling here you aren't thinking things are right between the two of you and you are having doubts either about yourself, him or the relationship. If you have to ask....something isn't right. Need more information.
2007-10-19 06:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by ~mobabe~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I assume you are both very young. If he is over 18 and you aren't, he can't legally have sex with you. It's statutory rape. To keep him safe, say no.
If you are both under 18, be very, very careful. Use protection. You do not want to have a child or catch something nasty.
When you start having sex, it changes a relationship. You can either become better friends and lovers or there can be this deep dark secret that kills your friendship entirely. One of you might get possessive and the other might want to explore. You need to decide whether you want to change the good thing you have now for something that could be worse.
2007-10-19 05:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by loryntoo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? Did you use protection? Are you in a position to deal with a pregnancy or a sexually transmitted disease? Take the emotion out of your decision - are you doing this because you don't feel loved by your family?
Now, put that all aside. Are you in love - do you think this relationship could be "the one"? Write down a list of pros and cons to having sex with your boyfriend. You can "make out" without "going all the way". You are the only one who can answer your own question. Think about it.....
2007-10-19 05:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by Gentle Spirit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand your question. What do you mean if it's wrong for you two to have sex now? You already had sex with him in the 4th month. So why have you not continued? The first awkward first night of sex has already been done. Continue by all means, just protect yourself...that is that you are at an age that you should be having sex of course...
2007-10-19 05:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by tonaloha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally I don't think it's wrong because I had sex 4 months into my first serious relationship ( I always thought I'd have sex after marriage) and we've been together for over 4 years... sex is not an obligation to partner, it is something that happens if you both agree on it and you are comfortable together, and if it doesn't work out you'll know what to do and not to do in your next relationship... it helps you learn and grow... but ultimately that decision is up to you:)
2007-10-19 05:50:04 · answer #8 · answered by Tano A 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be immediately with him and say that you're feeling like you rushed issues. If he become actual to his be conscious, he will understand and wait till you're smooth before pushing sex back. in basic terms your gut can allow you to comprehend the version between "he's pushing me to do it" and "ok, he's only a guy, yet i imagine he's able to waiting". If he comes to a decision no longer to attend round on you, then he's a participant and he will pass on. regrettably, if thats the case the in basic terms element you may do is pass on besides, carry your head up extreme and study out of your blunders. do not ever grow to be the variety of woman that receives depressed and clingy if a courting fails. placed your self first, save your self assurance, and the right guy will make his thanks to you.
2016-10-21 10:16:00 · answer #9 · answered by farrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, like in your question you said you had it before during your 4th month. so i am guessing you are ready. or are you doing it just for experiments? traditionally they say that you should wait until you are around a year or so to consider this. but if you want to you can also do it again. just practice safe sex ok? tell the guy to use condom and such.
another note would be to watch the guy's behavior also.. he probably is still in the stage where he just wants to have sex just to say he ain't virgin. hope this helps!
2007-10-20 19:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage, in a sense , is the license granted by the society to have sex and kids. Why drive without license and get fined? Wait till u know each other and enter into a wedlock....things go in this order in India and i feel its a perfect schedule
2007-10-19 05:57:41 · answer #11 · answered by Indian gal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋