Ok first off I would like to say I am not a homewrecker. Here's the story. I worked @ a conveniece store and the cops would come and get free gas. Well there is was a georgous cop who walked through the doors and we got to talking and everyday he would come in to see me. He was sweet and funny, but married. I mean I really fell for this guy. He was alot older than me but thats okay. One day I saw him on the side of the road and blew a kiss (just a friendly one) and he came in later that day and said this is a small town you could get me into trouble all the while have a grin. He said next time tug on your ear and I'll know what that means. Then I said what if I tugged on both ears then he was like I dont think I would be able to contain myself. He was always sending me mixed signals. Talking about his wife then flirting with me, well I think we were flirting. I dont know I dont want to feel bad but I think he was pursuing me as well. He made me giddy again. What do you think?
2007-10-19 05:32:19 · 5 answers · asked by Lanieღ•° 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may be just enjoying a good flirt, or he may be coming onto you. Kudos to him for at least telling you he has a wife.
However...if you were his wife, what would you think of these interactions he's having with another woman? A small flirty interaction is one thing, but to continue it day after day is pushing things. At the very least, it is disrespectful to the wife, and it can cultivate feelings for him on his part as well as yours that could damage their marriage.
Also, I want to note something that irks me: you are NOT a home-wrecker. HE is, if anything. You didn't take vows and you didn't promise to honor anyone. If you go forward with anything, you will just simply be naive, if not stupid. It's something most people don't think about but, if he acts like this behind her back, he would probably do the same to you. Probably best to walk away from this and keep things friendly but don't return the flirts.
2007-10-19 05:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by Gauffsa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. I always say it is OK to flirt BUT that is it. Everyone thinks about cheating every once in a while but the majority of people don't. The flirting can spice up his marriage or yours. BUT you have to be careful. Since you know he is married, you would be a homewrecker if you slept with him. But he would be too. Cheating is not good. It may be fun for a little bit but you will eventually feel extremely guilty and he would probably not leave his wife for you. Even if he did, would you really stay with someone who cheated and left his wife for someone. And who's to say he would not do it to you. I know that is a lot to think about but I say flirt but that is it. and don't lead him on. Also how much of an age distance? how old are you? That plays a big part too. Don't do anything you would regret or make him regret.
2007-10-19 05:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by mommainmississippi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think him mixing talk of his wife and flirting with you indicates he's not going to change his married situation but he is attracted to you and would like to consumate that attraction. He wants to get down with you. What does that make him? A scumbag with a pretty smile that cheats on his wife and has someone he only needs on the side. Please reconsider pursuing this- it can't end well for anybody.
2007-10-19 05:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by sojourning.sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is married, and has a family and doesn't' want anyone else to know, all u will get is a few stolen hours, u will never be able to go out in public, or on a date. i think your asking for alot of heartache, and think of his poor wife, who is cheated on and doesn't even know it. never think he wouldn't do the same to u as he is doing to her because he will cheat on u too. best to have some self respect and date people who aren't already taken, your wasting your time with this one.
2007-10-19 05:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just saty clear of married men some one will always get hurt most proberly u. good like !
2007-10-19 05:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it he will never leave his wife just trust me on this one i've been there and done that just don't do it
2007-10-19 05:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by hot_kokoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋