I am not yet engaged.. but I will be engaged in about 3 weeks (and yes i KNOW, i'm not guessing). We haven't discussed dates very much, but I am pretty sure the wedding will be sometime between Aug-Oct 2008. Also, the wedding will be small (less than 50 guests).
Is it ok to start planning it now, since it will be less than a year from now?
2007-10-19 05:15:04 · 24 answers · asked by *ae* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yep yep. My HTB and I were in the same boat...we knew we were getting married, he just hadn't proposed yet! I still starting "planning" (well, it was more "looking" than planning LOL, I was just too excited!).
And just so you know, *everyone* at one time or another has thought about what their wedding, married, engaged, or otherwise. For people to tell you it's too soon or whatever, who cares?! What's the difference of looking into wedding information now than dreaming about your wedding at 5 years old?
Ok, that rants done LOL. Good luck to you both and congrats!
2007-10-19 08:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by kiki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a good idea to plan your wedding keeping it small is very practical and mature and I do commend you for that and give you credit. I had a large wedding because I am from a large family but I kept in budget very pracitcal and I had no cocktail hour just an early dinner with a cake and a cake and punch reception at the church. By the time I came back from our honeymoon every thing was paid for and we had no debt. Yes as a wedding gift my mom and dad paid for my wedding but I was very pracitcial I had many people but not with a lot of overdone formality. An afforadable wedding can be done.
You are SO doing the right thing I am proud of you:)
2007-10-19 08:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can plan some stuff, but will have to wait on others. For example, you can't book the church or pick a specific date. Most parents won't commit to a budget and most churches/reception halls won't consider it official until you are actually engaged.
You can (and I would recommend) pick out your wedding party and your maids dresses. Start looking at churches, reception halls and honeymoon locations, and possibly even decide on one or all of these.
You can decide on your wedding colors and even go as far as looking at which flowers, bouquets and centerpieces you want. Be careful about picking specifics just yet unless you have a set budget already. You may fall in love with beautiful centerpieces that you "have to have" that you later find out would take up half your budget!
Also, start your guest list with people going into 1 of 3 categories: (a) have to have, (b)really want/should have, and (c) would like to have.
Wedding planning takes up a lot of time so you're being smart by wanting to start some of it early.
Good luck!
2007-10-19 05:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by iheartbayley 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not getting Officially engaged till christmas but started planning because it will be less then a year till the wedding. Thought I was the only person doing this. Good Luck
2007-10-19 06:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by confused7873 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some others. It's ok to start planning, but don't get a wedding planner yet or start buying anything. I definately wouldn't make it super obvious to your boyfriend. If he sees you're looking around at dresses and a place for the wedding he might get cold feet and not propose to you. Anything can happen in 3 weeks.
I think a lot of girls start thinking about their wedding and making plans in their head about where it will be, what dress they will wear, what cake they will have, what music will be played, ect.
2007-10-19 05:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by misstsukino 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I dont see any reason why not. My man and I decided back in July that we were going to marry next year. We are not "formally" engaged yet. No ring or announcement. But we are planning away. I have it all planned out (we are catering for it ourselves) and he has found out where to get supplies for it etc. Our wedding is in July 08. Plan away. I see no reason to leave it all to the last minute.
Good luck
2007-10-19 09:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not til there's a ring on your finger. Depending upon where you live, there are things that may need to be booked a year in advance - the minister/church and premarital counselling; the caterer and venue, the band... then the rest follows.
You need the year for the two of you to save money, too, so you can host a wonderful day!
2007-10-19 21:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes definitely start planning now. IF you live in a hot climate.. here's a little advice.. get married in the early part of the day (if the wedding is outside), because it's unbearable to be outside in the sweltering heat trying to get married. Ive performed a few ceremonies out in the heat, and it's not pleasant. good luck.
2007-10-19 09:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by navywife_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, begin now. Since you already have a date set, think about the wedding budget. Research what ceremony and reception sites you'd be interested in first.
Check out:
http://www.theknot.com
http://www.marthastewart.com/weddings
http://www.brides.com
2007-10-19 07:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I've got news for you... If you two have agreed to get married, you ARE engaged. An engagement is nothing but an agreement to marry. And if you haven't agreed on marriage yet, then planning would be premature.
2007-10-19 06:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋