but i really would like to give her a monetary one... do i still give it anyway and wish her the best in her second marriage or should i really honor her request?
2007-10-19 05:13:27 · 16 answers · asked by ogg08 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would still give it to her. Just put it in a card and write how much you care about her and wish her happiness. Don't make it a big deal, just do it.
2007-10-19 05:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by Celtic-Candy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should honor her request. she is making that request for a reason, whatever that may be. a gift that is offered against the wishes of the recipient isn't really a gift. basically, you're saying YOU want to give her the money. she is saying that she doesn't need anything more than the honor of your attendance. send a nice card. perhaps on their anniversary or even the next big holiday, send them a gift card to a fancy restaurant. since this is her second wedding, the couple may feel that they already have everything they need. perhaps they also want to avoid random trinkets and junk.
2007-10-19 10:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Tootsie. Your friend probably did not want people to feel obligated to buy a gift, or maybe the couple feels like they don't really need anything being its a second marriage. But, I don't think it would be inappropriate to give a gift anyway. You will just come off looking like a super generous friend! ;-)
2007-10-19 05:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by theMrs. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have said no gifts, honor that request and dont give her anything but a nice card wishing them well.
I speak first handedly, asking for no gifts doesnt mean they are being coy and secretly wanting gifts, no gifts mean no gifts. They really dont want anything.
2007-10-19 05:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm planning a Wedding (it's my second) and I don't want friends and family to give gifts. I have a houseful of Knick-Knacks and very lovely things. I probably could open a small store. ( I 'm working my best to get rid of the Knick-Knacks and carefully keeping our favorite things.)
One thing I would appreciate would be a lunch invitation, dinner dates trips to the movies instead of gifts...I rather spend quality time with my friends.
2007-10-19 05:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by Joan K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is nice to see a bride that is not shallow or money hungry.
Honor her request maybe after thier marraige and honeymoon take them out to dinner to bless them. Ususally the second time around many couples have the things they already need:)
2007-10-19 08:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's her wedding honor the womans request. if she says she wants no presents she means none that she might have to return. did you know that 30% of marriages turn out great and 70% end in divorce? boy that stinks.
2007-10-19 05:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by Chelsea L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Respect her wishes. But if you feel the need, donate in the honor of your friends nuptials to an organization, plant a tree in their honor, ect....
2007-10-21 03:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by jilliebean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a nice card with some honeymoon money or if you are close to her give her something from the heart. They just aren't requiring gifts, that doesn't mean they will be mad if you give one.
2007-10-19 07:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by crazesillyme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Money never goes out of style. A lot of people ask for no gifts when they have already been married because they have everything that they need for their household.
2007-10-19 05:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by vaya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋