This Girl that i still love is very addicted to me our friendship goes beyonds words but i cant leave her alone...we did share alot with one another and i just want to move on because i know we cant be together right now...what should i do...let her know or What?
2007-10-19 05:04:08 · 5 answers · asked by Mr.LivingmyLifeInNYC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unless the relationship was absolutely horrid, very shallow to begin with, or the breakup immensely ugly, falling out of love is very difficult because a big chunk of "being in love" and having a relationship builds an attachment. That affection and that history is hard to let that go.
It is too easy to be drawn to the person and to fall prey to the desire to escape the loneliness of the distance you now have when you break up. Plus, without being together anymore, you are away from the negatives the relationship had, so it is easier to remember/feel/be in touch with the things that were GOOD about you two.
Unfortunately, it is also too easy to fall back into the patterns that broke you up in the first place. and that is why you see "yo-yo" couples all the time, together, broken up, back together, broken up again, etc...
If you are certain this is not a relationship you two can have right now, it may require you both to stay away from each other. Because it is so easy to both idealize what you had (and thus want it back), but yet fall back into what didn't work, being together (friends or otherwise) at all may just invite temptation and at the very least, keep you from truly moving on.
It's hard to let go of a relationship, but even harder to let go of the person. I wish you and your ex all the best.
2007-10-19 05:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by Gauffsa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scientific answer? because falling in love messes with the chemicals in your brain andimpairs your judgement.
Heart answer?- because being in love is such an awesome feeling. And once your perfectly happy and think that someone is your world, if you've found paradise hy would you want to leave?
If you two have tht strong a bond- wait for each other. I live 250 miles from my bf and yet we fel the same as we did when I was down the road. If you truly love each other- it doesn't need to be a problem.
2007-10-19 05:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by Moi? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wsup.
First you should try to spend time with your friend, talk to them, don't keep everything inside. Do something fun to get your mind off of her. And make sure you know that she want to stay as friend or get serious. Find an obvious situation and said that you and her are like best friend. and when you think of her, eat some chocolate or something sweet to make you feel good and go out to do something. Fill up your schedule so that you are busy and have no time to think of her.
Hope this help
2007-10-19 05:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you fall in love and are loved back, body chemistry changes. When you're unwillingly dumped these changes are still a part of you. Hope also plays a part. Make hope work for you, and wish for her a new love. It's a great cure for yearning for the old love.
2007-10-19 05:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by virginiabenson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well believe it or not girls like me fall hard to faster and harder! I love my boyfriend so much that i cant be without him and we are both in love and cant just leave like that.
2016-05-23 17:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋