Here's the thing - my friend is getting married next year and I am 1 of her bridesmaids. Myself and my partner have recently starting trying to conceive, should I tell her? I dont see why it would be a problem if I got pregant but would you want to be told?
2007-10-19 04:49:46 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I actually got pregnant right after my friend announced her engagement, as did another of her bridesmaids. She ended up moving the date just for us because the wedding was exactly nine months later.
I would say not to bother telling her until you know for sure that you are pregnant. Once you know, tell her immediately. Afterall, it will affect the dress that you will be wearing. Also, if it's a Catholic wedding, you stand for over an hour, and that can really suck the farther along you are. If the wedding is right when you are to deliver, it would be a good idea to back out and let someone else take your spot...then maybe you could help with flowers or decorating. I know this sounds like it would be no help, but most brides have enough to worry about without considering if they will have to replace their bridesmaid. Wait until it is a problem, then talk to her about it.
Hope this helps.
2007-10-19 04:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by E.T. Barton 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The only way that your pregnancy could be problematic for your friend's wedding is if your due date is close to the wedding date. If that happens, your first priority will obviously be to yourself, your partner, and your baby. You may not be able to be in the wedding. If you're not too close to your due date at the time of the wedding, everything should be fine. I think that you should tell the bride only if you do get pregnant. That way, if your due date is close to the wedding date, the bride will have several months to make other plans or ask another person to step in as a bridesmaid. If your due date is a few months past the wedding date, then I see no problem with your being in the wedding. The bride just need to know what style of dress you'll need.
2007-10-19 05:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by SE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although it's not mandatory that you tell the bride that you and your partner are attempting to have a family, it would be nice of you to let her know. First, she's your friend and she would be happy for you and your partner, second, depending on if you do conceive or not, it will affect the size bridesmaid dress you will wear, third, if you conceive and her wedding takes place around your due date, that would/could be trouble and some women have some difficulty during their last trimester -- hopefully you won't. Furthermore, if you are expected to be standing a lot, that will affect you if you are pregnant. Hope this helps in what you decide to do.
2007-10-23 04:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by Blondie11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes....if she is a friend I cannot see that creating a problem. She should be very happy for you. In addition, I have had two friends that were Bridesmaids while pregnant and the Bride did not mind. The only issue that aroused was being fitted. Both put on alot of weight so make sure you let the Bridal Salon know you may be expecting. That way the dress that is ordered will have more than enough room if alterations are needed!
2007-10-19 05:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by DK 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, that should be a private thing between you and your husband. What happens if God forbid you have trouble, you will be questioned constantly on how things are going and as it takes longer to actually concieve the questions will get more bothersome to you. Its not a stress that you need when trying to concieve.
Go about it quietly for now and after it happens then you can decide when the right time is to share the news with her and everyone else. Then you can give her the option of whether or not she would like for you to step down (sometimes brides arent too keen on havng a PG bridesmaid, so ready yourself for that before hand). However, I would suggest that when you go looking for dresses you speak to the salesperson personally and away from others and ask what their policy is on changing the order to a maternity gown and how long you can actually wait to order the dress as you are trying right now to have a baby and want to be prepared for what might happen.
Best of luck to you!
2007-10-19 05:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was close enough to a friend that she had made me her bridesmaid, I would want to tell her regardless of the wedding. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your friend - if you're comfortable sharing your personal family plans with her. Share as much as you're comfortable.
P.S. I would definitely let her know if you got pregnant, but "trying to conceive" does not automatically lead to being pregnant, some people keep trying for months before anything happens. This is why I feel it's kind of a personal thing at this point.
2007-10-19 05:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are one of the bridesmaids that means you already must have a close relationship to the bride-to-be so being honest with her would be the right thing to do. If by chance being pregnant during the time of their wedding will be something that bother's her just try to understand her and support her and her new husband from the audience! =) Their happiness for their wedding is as important to them as you and your husband trying to have a child.
More than likely, because you are close enough to be in her wedding party, she will be very happy and supportive of you. Openness and honestly are always better than a surprise in the end which could be disastrous!
I wish you the best!
2007-10-19 04:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by mzfreefalling 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can think of no reason to not share this with your friend. You should be excited, just as she is about her wedding. I was seven months pregnant in my cousin's wedding. I bought material from the same place the bridesmaid dresses were purchased and had a dress made for me that looked like theirs. She didn't have us wear shoes in the wedding, so I was barefoot and pregnant walking down the aisle. Haha. If you are friends you should support each other and just because she is getting married, I am sure she will be excited for you. If not, you should re-consider your friendship.
2007-10-19 05:12:48 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Live*~*Laugh*~*Love*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 'trying' to conceive. If she is a close enough friend that you'd tell her that you were 'trying', she'll be excited for you. If you aren't quite that close, I suggest waiting until you are actually pregnant.
On average, couples take 6 months to conceive once they start 'trying' -- so it might take you even longer.
But, once you find that you are pregnant, let her know right away. No matter who is paying for the dress, offer to pay any extra material or alteration fees; or offer to step out of the wedding party, and instead take another role (a reading?) Give her time to think about it, like don't put her on the spot to make a decision.
2007-10-19 05:09:34 · answer #9 · answered by Sue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why choose now? Why not wait until after the wedding?
And yes, you should tell her, and ask her if that makes a difference. Some bridesmaid dresses accommodate
a pregnant belly, and some don't.
I once went to a wedding where 3 bridesmaids came down the aisle, and each one was more pregnant than the one before. It was almost funny; we laughed that the bride should have come down as the most pregnant of all! (She wasn't
pg by the way.)
2007-10-19 05:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by M S 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋