It is just fine to be nice, but i think that the saying "nice guys finish last" is another way of saying, if you tend to everyone else's problems and issues except yours, you are neglecting yourself... and your responsibilities.
I had a boyfriend who was very "nice"... he was a caretaker, and thought that if he always went out of his way to do nice things for others, he'd be better accepted. He was so busy doing things for others, that he neglected his responsibilities and himself.
So, he did finish last, in my opinion.
2007-10-19 04:42:17
·
answer #1
·
answered by letterstoheather 7
·
2⤊
0⤋
I don't like to say bad guy or good guy. That sound's a bit narcissistic. People with narcissistic issues tend to separate people into 'good' and 'bad' categories. They don't realize that everyone is a fallible f'd up, but still vey lovable human being. They tend to get easily sucked into hollywood and advertising images of perfect people(heros) and pieces of garbage.
I want to also point out one place where you are very perceptive. You see that there doesn't seem to be a force in the world that rewards 'good' people or 'good' deeds. My advice is to validate this observation. If you can accept this truth, albeit a painful one, you can negotiate this world much better, because you will stop expecting it to be true and you will take action with the knowledge that it isn't. Yes, people are selfish sometimes and the world isn't fair all the time. But there is good news. You don't need it to be fair or perfect. You don't need people to be selfess all the time to be happy. You were made to be in this world, not a perfect one. You have been given all the tools necessary to exist and be happy in THIS world, believe it or not. If you're not happy now, examine why this is true(now I'm not saying that this is an easy answer. Sometimes these things take years to figure out). You may not be getting everything you need now but I think you can find it if you try.
2007-10-21 11:54:32
·
answer #2
·
answered by LG 7
·
0⤊
0⤋
haha because you're foolish. Nice guys and bad guys , its depedent on guy to guy. If good guys finished last, this world would be screwed up. What really happens is because nice guys are usually non assertive and too pansy of a guy to approach a girl or attempt anything.
"Bad guys always get the girls" HA! Go to a nightclub and take a look around at what kinda trash most "Bad guys" go for. Look again in 20 years as well. More respect from people? It's because people become intimidated from them and poussy out.
2007-10-19 04:42:27
·
answer #3
·
answered by Anonymous
·
1⤊
0⤋
severe-high quality adult adult males might provide each and everything for a woman. In thought sounds good, yet in practice females want to paintings for their issues. so as that they confuse it with jerks because of the fact jerks certainly do not provide a **** approximately something different than intercourse. right here a woman desires to spend time together with her guy, the jerk might wanna bypass watch soccer with the adult adult males instead, at the same time as the severe-high quality guy might cancel all night plans purely for her. females wanna have the scare of dropping their adult adult males and while they come back fairly love they bypass loopy for it. that's like this, in case you have steak each and every night it gets boring. in case you consume rubbish each and every night and one night there is finally a chew of pepperoni, it would tastes like steak. those are immature females regardless of the shown fact that, mature females have not got the time and capability to waste on stupid drama anymore so as that they settle with a severe-high quality guy. So yup severe-high quality adult adult males end final. So my advice is be a jerk now, and be a severe-high quality guy in a protracted time in existence.
2016-11-08 22:25:45
·
answer #4
·
answered by clapper 4
·
0⤊
0⤋
actually this phrase can mean 2 things. either you look at it as a loser, meaning you can't be the first. or you look at it as a winner, meaning you are the closer, he/she marry you. but I don't think either holds. some nice people end up with horrible ones. some horrible people have very nice partners.
2007-10-19 04:46:26
·
answer #5
·
answered by Carborane 6
·
0⤊
0⤋
Actually it is proof of why most of our politicians are political prostitutes. Honest candidates run, but they are unwilling to do what is necessary to get elected: accept bribes, solicit bribes, lie &c.
2007-10-19 04:47:16
·
answer #6
·
answered by iraqisax 6
·
0⤊
0⤋