my bf thinks im insane?

Question

i call and text him allot even if he doesnt reply
i get jelous sometimes
i accuse him of things
i always try tag along with his friends
i chase after him
i know this needs to stop but i think i may be too late as ive gone too far how can i put it right

Answer 1

Sounds like your a bit insecure, sit him down and discus all your worries.

Answer 2

Ok. Look. I've thought of you as a friend but not a very close one. It's an illusion I create for myself to be sure that I give people the best advice I can. Now I've changed my illusion, the new one is that you're a very good friend, one I've known for ages. So here's the advice;

Look! You're bloody obsessed with the guy, it's abnormal it's un-natural and it's uncomfortable for both of you. I know girls have that clingy image but what the f***. Leave the guy alone, and start to think about you're own life. Call some friends and do something on you're own. There is no way you can live each others lives no matter how much you love each other, it doesn't work that way so stop trying. Live you're own life or completely give up on a relationship with this guy and any other guy. OK!

Answer 3

\You're not insane, but you are clingy (you know this). A way to remedy this is to do your best to find an activity that you like to do. Maybe give yourself 1 day where you call or text, and if he does not reply, you don't message him for another day. I know it is really hard, but if you force yourself to do this, it could be a BIG help, and it could make him so much happier when he does see you. Try to tone down the accusations. Maybe accuse him half the time that you usually do, and maybe you can eventually make it pretty minimal. Same with the other issues.

You need to talk to him about it. Say that you realize your behavior was clingy, and you are doing your best to stop it because you care about your relationship.

Answer 4

TRUST HIM... give him the benefit of the doubt, turn off your phone and leave it at home if you are texting him that much, jealousy is natural and sometimes cute in small doses but if you are getting mad at every glance he makes at a girl then you are definitely a problem because guys JUST look, ya the girl might be hot but there's no need to be insecure about it.. I'm sure alot of girls bf's check you out too and they get jealous, DON'T accuse him of ANYTHING if you have no proof and no real reason... guys just want to hang out with the guys sometimes, it's nothing personal.. sometimes hanging out with a girl so much can leave them missing that guy time. Give him space, turn off your phone or even disconnect it (if you really like him and don't want to do anymore damage), let him have fun and take advantage of the freedom, just since you are bf and gf doesn't mean that you have to hang out all the time and can't have your alone time and have to give up all your friends for them

Answer 5

OMG can we say a little TOO controlling! Wow sister you have GOT to give your man some space! =D How would you feel if it we turned this around and it was him doing this to you!!!! I know for a fact that I would totally break it off with my man if he acted this way! You have GOT To have TRUST in a relationship if you want it to work, all you can do is sit down with him and talk to him an tell him that you are going to try hard not to be such a bug a boo! =D and stick by it! I know you are going to want to text or whatever him all the time but you are going to have to restrain yourself. get a hobby do something else to keep your mind off of what he is doing all the time or you will drive yourself crazy!!! Hope it all works out! Good Luck!

Answer 6

its been mentioned before, but i would apologize. if your already going out then their must be some attraction. your bound to think about him a lot so calling/texting, getting along with his Friends is fine chasing and accusing him of things though. If I'm accused of something by my girl it shows she doesn't trust me, chasing? as in he is running away from you or your stalking?, people need their own space give him a little but don't let him forget you ^^.
when you think of your relationship with him what do you remember the most? its the special times men are the same so just make some more for him to remember.
good luck

Answer 7

You can put it right by backing off. You need a life aside from your bf. No normal person wants to be completely responsible for the well-being of another adult. You will drive him away if you haven't already. Limit yourself to a call every other day or so. Stop accusing him of things (this is your behavior, and you can control it). If you are jealous, realize that it is your problem, not his, and don't share this with him. Let him have time with his friends (call your own friends, if you have any, and spend time with them. If you don't have any friends, that should tell you something). Stop chasing after him.

Answer 8

I wouldn't say clinically insane, but ask yourself this, what is making you want to check up on him all the time, is this a trust issue or is it as simple as this is one of the first relationships you have been in and you want to show him how much you care by being there all the time, even if he doesn't want/ask for you to...

Take stock in your relationship with him and step back for a while and make him come to you!!! It's all about the chase and men get bored very easily when a woman is at their disposal

Answer 9

hi...well obviously your doing this because you really love him and you don't want to loose him. See the thing is that guys dont understand why we do this but if you really bug him out he's going to find another girl. Why don't you sit down and explain to him how you feel and why do you feel this way about him? There had to be some problem between you guys or maybe you feel your not good enough for him thats why your scared to let him out. Sometimes low self esteem is the problem in relationships...i would definetly talk to him and clear this mess up okay xoxoxoxoxo

Answer 10

So what makes you so insecure in the relationship? Talk to him, explain how you feel and be honest with him and yourself. Maybe it is too late but this is a problem you need to address as it will just repeat on the next relationship. Think about seeking the help of a counsellor honey and good luck.

Answer 11

Well any guy in their right mind would run away from a partner like you. I loathe possessiveness! If you want the relationship to last (if it's not to late) you really need to back off. If you tried talking to him explain to him wot you just said here and tell him that things will change, maybe you'll have a second chance..?
All the best