Is mom always right???

Question

Me and my partner have been together for 2 & a half years now , but weve been through alot and hes been through alot with me (I have mental health issues and am on prozac which is difficult for him and we also decided on an abortion together with the knowledge his and my family knew and agreed on) but now we can barely have a conversation and he will sit an play on his mobile and only come up to when he wants something eg sex..... so Ive taken a break from him for a couple of weeks and even tryed to talk to him as a friend and didnt work. We are so good together and always have a laugh and joke but things are getting to much for him and me so thats the reason for the break... right now I broke down to my mom how I missed my son and how he was going to be in the next 2 weeks so she comforted me & said she also thinks about having a grandchild around the house...but then she said very truthfully that she could see and my partner getting married and having a child and him being a good dad

in which Ive always wanted with him but hes so scared of commitment later in life with me (as Im 17 and him 20) and I would really want this future with him ...so is my mom right .. as I thought she didnt like him and shes never been so honest and deep hearted ??

Answer 1

Yes and it SUCKS!

Answer 2

I don't know if your mom is right, but I understand how hard it is after something like an abortion comes into the picture. I was also married at a very young age. (I know you're not, but I'm saying to think about that right now.) My word of advice, take it slow. Sounds like you both need your time and space to deal with the personal issues in the relationship and with the abortion. In addition, you will do SO much growing up over the next 10 years. Keep it friendly for a while, not romantically involved. It's taken a year for my separated husband and I to be able to feel something like we did before we got married 7 years ago. We're friends again, thankfully. Just let him know that you want to take it back to the friendship level. (Sex confuses things, so be careful with what you define as "friendship.") Good luck.

Answer 3

If you and your partner are considering marriage, perhaps consider pre-marital counseling or couples counseling.

If your relationship lacks communication now, it won't get better unless you BOTH make an effort.

Hon, your marriage and relationship with your partner isn't your family's business. It's ok to ask for support and advice, but the decision about an abortion was no one else's but yours and your partner's. I'm sorry you have had to go through this. Whether your family agreed or not, should never have played into your decision.

I don't see how your partner could be a good dad if all he does is sit around and plays on his mobil and doesn't communicate with you about anything but sex. Maybe he has POTENTIAL... but otherwise, i don't see it.

Answer 4

Wow, that is a lot for a 17b yr old. That's a big future to plan so early. 2 weeks is hardly a break, sounds like you need longer. Make friends, get hobbies and get counseling over your abortion, you definitely are having an issue with that and your mother, unfortunately, sounds a little dysfunctional as well.

Answer 5

moms aren't always rite. there's a lot more out there, and i think u should stop and think for a sec if u really do want this when u can do something else. i think u should support your own life first rather than trying to support a family. u and your husband seem really young to get marry. marriage isn't always the important thing in your life that u have to do when you're 17.

Answer 6

in my opinion if your mom was so deep hearted and really wanted to help you out then she is probably telling you the truth and she is right!!! i have been in this situation before and my mom was right so i understand and everything worked out fine!!!! know i dont want to tell you what to do but i always say go with your heart; sit and think for a while and then do what your heart feels you should do!!!!!

Answer 7

Mum is usually right because she has had a lot more experience than you. She's probably experienced these situations, and is probably trying to guide you through these situations.

But use your heart and your brain. Neither can always be correct.

Answer 8

Mothers do what they think is best for you, whether they're right or wrong. But this isn't advice she's given you, it's what she feels and hopes for the future - why would she lie? The concern is, does your partner want this?

Answer 9

Not always, but they always have more experience, they always have an opinion worth listening to. And they always see things a bit clearer than you do. More often than you yourself are right, your mom is right. People would do well to realize that at a young age.

Answer 10

oh my you have been through a lot in the past few months and are searching for conclusions just take each day as it comes if its meant to be you will be with your man
your mum is dissapointed in his not standing by you at this time

Answer 11

Uh, youre 17.............hopefully, you are still in school. Worry about getting your life together and not about a "man" (he's still a boy in my opinion) and having a child ! Girl, please, grow up first and know who YOU are before worrying about someone else.