my man dosn't have a great income and so struggles to make ends meet, he sometimes asks me for a loan of cash as he is short, i dont mind if i get it back but i dont always see it again , also when he comes down to my house he helps hiself to food and toiletries he thinks if he pays his bus fare to come and see me then he shouldn't have pay for much else, i have a kid to feed he dont, am i being selfish?
2007-10-19 04:32:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dumb move.
Those loans always work out to be gifts unless in writing.
Watch Judge Judy.
The food is always better when its free.
2007-10-19 05:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by dick_ache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself that your man doesn't earn much & you don't mind whether you can get back the cash that you loan him. There's a trace of mistrust in your tone on how he helps himself to some of your supplies. Why don't you set things straight with him if free-loading bothers you? You'll know it first hand, (straight from the horse's mouth, so to speak), whether or not he's taking advantage of your generosity . You have every right to know what lies beneath his being comfortable. As for me, I would lend him if I know he loves me & is just really short on dough. Good luck!
2007-10-19 11:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by zynjen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not being selfish because you do have a child. It would be different if you didn't have a kids. When he ask for money tell him you ain't got it. When he comes over don't answer the door or if he calls just don't answer th phone. Make him think you're not home.
2007-10-19 11:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time for you to let him go and move on. It's not about how much you make but what you do with it. Sounds like his priorities aren't together, and that he knows he can get money from you whenever he likes. He is using you. You have a child, that's your responsibility, not taking care of a grown man.
2007-10-19 11:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not selfish at all, you should always take care of your household first...
You need to lay down some ground rules, so everyone knows where they stand....
2007-10-19 11:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many things wrong with this picture. STOP STOP supporting him.....period....no if ands or buts. Move on to someone who has some pride about himself.
2007-10-19 11:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kit kat is right.you need to move out of this relationship and see a better man.
2007-10-19 11:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by @@ye$#@...... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already have one child to support, you don't need another!
2007-10-19 11:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋