Question for children-in-law - Do you call your parents-in-law by the name of Mom or Dad?

Question

Should I ask my daughter-in-law to address me as Mom and my husband as Dad?

Answer 1

what about yourself, what do you call your parent-in-law, that is exaclty what you should expect from your children-in-law. The names you call must show some kind of respect, don.t be too formal/informal.

Answer 2

I have friends that call each others parents mom and dad. I think it is so nice and wish that my husband would call my parents mom and dad, however I don’t feel right calling his parents mom and dad, but also we are not at all close to them. That could have something to do with it!! If you are close to your daughter in law, one day when you are having a visit with her just lightly mention that if she wanted to call you mom and dad that you would love that as you view her as your daughter. Be light about it though! It might be hard for some as they may feel it’s like betraying their real parents. I do however think it is loving and shows a closeness. Hope we can be there one day too!
All the best! =)

Answer 3

I call them by their first names... partially because my father in law is my husband's step-dad, so he calls him by his first name. Also, it just doesn't feel right to me to call them mom & dad... but for some people it's fine. My sister's husband calls our parents mom & dad and everyone's ok with that. I think the parent-in-law should give the child-in-law the option of what they are more comfortable with, maybe say, "call me Mary, or mom". That way both options are ok with the parent-in-law, and the child-in-law can pick what they are more comfortable with.

Answer 4

My mother in law told me that when I was comfortable I could call her Mom. Slowly I started calling her Mom and now it's second nature. Sometimes when I talk about "Mom", people will ask me "are you talking about your MOTHER? Or Mother In Law?"!!

:o)

My father-in-law, I call him by his first name because he's my husband's step-father. Even though they are close and I'm close to them as well, it's just more comfortable calling him by his first name instead of dad, because my husband does. When I'm joking around, I'll call him Dad! I would seriously call him "dad" if my husband did.

Answer 5

I called my mother-in-law mom. she was a wonderful lady and accepted me for who I am. Unfortunately, I lost her 3 weeks ago. As for my father-in-law, we don't talk much but I call him by his first name. I think that you should ask if your child's spouse is comfortable calling you mom and dad. My husband calls both of my parents Mom and Dad. Being a family doesn't always mean that you have to be born into it.

Answer 6

No, I don't address them as Mom and Dad, and I wouldn't feel comfortable doing it if they asked me to (although we have a good relationship), because they're not MY Mom and Dad, they're my husband's Mom and Dad.

If I’m talking directly to them and the kids are around I call them Grandpa X/Grandma X. Before we had kids, I called them Mr. X/Mrs. X (that's rather formal I know, but I certainly would not feel comfortable calling them by their first names).

But that's just me, and others may feel differently. But please realize that making that request of her (that she call you Mom and Dad) is a very tricky thing, because even though she may not feel comfortable with it, she might agree just to make you happy (even if you tell her she doesn't have to), and that’s not good for her.

Answer 7

No, I call my mother and father in law by their first names, or sometimes by what the children call them, Granny and Pops.

My son in law calls my husband and me by our first names, and my future daughter in law still calls us Mr. and Mrs. I think once she spends a few more holidays with us, she will get more comfortable.

Answer 8

I do not -- I call them by their first names. I would personally be uncomfortable calling them Mom and Dad -- I already have a Mom and Dad . . .

Answer 9

i haven't observed a severe share of human beings who call their dad and mom-in-regulation mom and pa. interior of my kinfolk, few married human beings gain this. some call them by potential of their first names. Others use a appropriate identify with final call or a lovable nickname. i think of people who do call them mom or dad gain this which you may create an extensive feeling of kinfolk through a great fondness of their in-rules or out of appreciate.

Answer 10

I call mine by their 1st name.

Why don't you just let her choose what she wants to call you. It might put a lot of pressure on her if she thinks that you expect her to call you mom and dad.