Girls- Single man looking for a girlfriend, can't find one, what is my problem?

Question

30 yrs old black man, no kids, good IT job, ok body

Answer 1

Dont stress over it. Let it come to you. Try imagining yourself happy with a woman who suites you, and every morning when you wake up picture yourself in this happy life..think only postive thoughts about yourself and the way you want your life to be. Postive thinking can work wonders.

Answer 2

There comes a time though man where you need to help yourself become more willing to set aside some of those social buriers your creating. If you actually are concerned with your dating life, it sounds to be maybe you have some insecurities, because otherwise this so called "package" you have, isn’t making you feel all the good about yourself. You need to increase your self-esteem some more, and get out their and advertise your product a little better. When your out on a date, take control, call all the shots, and never, and I mean never, tell a girl you haven’t ever kissed another girl or had a girlfriend. No girl wants to be the Ginny pig girlfriend; she wants to feel like she needs to fight for her man. Sounds to me though bro that you do have a lot going for you, so use it to your advantage, but don’t become smug about it either, and just get out there be calm, cool, and confident.

Answer 3

You may need to simply change your approach ...if you have a friend who has a nice girlfriend and she seems decent then ask the friend if she has a single friend ...secondly if you don't go to church start there are a lot of single women in church,,, start shopping at Barnes and Noble or book stores in your area single women love to read...and if all else fails try the internet but just proceed with caution ..you sound like a good catch and should be selective in what you chose...there are good women still left just be patient and ask God for guidance

Answer 4

The problem is that you're 30, you only have an ok body and you still can't get anyone to hang out with you... You sound like some kind of sicko that would stalk a girl if she said hello to you more than once... Don't be such a creep...

Answer 5

I'm not a girl, but I figured I might give you some advice.

Looking for a girlfriend is usually a mistake. People miss so many opportunities by looking so hard for something else. Just relax and take it easy. Something may come your way soon.

Answer 6

Your looking to hard. If you stop looking one will find you. Women can sense when a guy is desperate and they will have nothing to do with u. Relax and enjoy life and u will see that a beautiful young lady will come into your life.

Answer 7

maybe you are going to the wrong places? or your standards are too high? try going to church, there are a lot of single women there looking for husbands, or try the internet.
also, check the way you look, do you appear neat? do you need to lose weight? or fix your teeth? are you a nice guy?

Answer 8

ur resumé looks good on paper so i could be other things such as ur manner of approach maybe, lack of confidence or too much confidence in other word *********. i dunno but i'm sure theres someone out there for u and she could just be wondering the same as u. i hope u find her

Answer 9

Maybe you should stop looking and she will come to you. You could possibly be attracting the wrong type of woman...Just be patient.

Answer 10

i dont know?.... why cant you?... do you have a hard time talkign to them?... do you push yourself on them too quickly..?
do you find the wrong ones when you do get them?.. or do you sit at home online pondering about it to where you dont even get one ?.... there are many many reasons... i dont think you have a problem.... just worry about you and shell pop outa nowhere.... the best love is unexpected.