Did you know 98% of women who makes abortion chose it for convenience or for lack of support from...?

Question

the partner and family? From the women you know that did it, how many were raped or had their health in risk?

Men, please, give your girlfriend or the girl you had fun with the support she needs, instead of the meaningless speech "she can do whatever she wants with her body". You guys have responsibility on this, too!!

http://www.abortionno.org/Resources/fastfacts.html

Check "why women have abortion statistics" topic.

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Answer 1

...I have a success story...21 yrs ago, my late husband and I adopted a baby boy...his birth mother had been a 16 yr old high school girl...this young girl had lost her own mother to cancer when she was 12 so she didn't have her Mom to help her through her pregnancy and with making choices...in spite of this, she still chose life over abortion...and then actually screened many couples, with the help of an attorney's office, for the adoption of her baby...she was active in deciding where her child went and who was to raise him...it was a semi-open adoption in that all communication was done through the adoption attorney...after a difficult birth, she signed all rights away and we became the baby's parents...also, the natural father was not supportive and left and joined the service to get away from it all...he was
African American and the birth mother was white...we are eternally grateful for her strength and conviction for she gave us a beautiful son who grew up to be a strong and caring man

Answer 2

I couldn't agree more.

I cannot and will not pronounce some holy judgment against the "sinners" who have had abortions -- for I am not one of them, though graciously and undeservingly forgiven. In fact, the woman who had the abortion has also become a Christian and we have both made peace with God and with each other.

One more thing - since I am a man, there is no way that I will claim to understand or try to understand what it means to carry a child or to face raising one alone. That would be ridiculous.

However, I have seen my wife give birth more than once and can honestly say that birth is an amazing, beautiful, and wondrous event. I have a new respect for women because of it. But still, I am a man and I have little to offer except hope, forgiveness, love, reason, information, and the word of God.

So, do not expect gross pictures, or a psychological guilt-whipping. Expect information, care, and concern.

My only goal is that you too can find fulfillment and peace in Christ Jesus.

Answer 3

I feel so bad for the girls who do it because of pressure or an uncaring, unsupportive family. What a heartbreaking mistake to make, one that they will live with and regret for the rest of their lives! At the same time, though, pressure and "loneliness" are not good enough reasons to end the life of an unborn baby (especially in such a painful way - babies that small have fully-functioning nervous systems and have been known to scream in pain during abortions....). As a previous poster said, there is *always* the option to give your baby up for adoption. I have a friend who did this and I am just so proud of her bravery!! More couples are looking to adopt a baby than the number of babies aborted every year!

No, I will save the condemnation for those women who use abortion as a method of birth control, the ones who have multiple abortions, the married women who abort their babies because they just don't want any more kids. I will save it for the women who know better, who know exactly what they are doing and deliberately do it anyways. What an ugly thing to do to your baby, that little one who you KNEW you might possibly create when you chose to engage in sex. Shame on those women for their selfishness.

And I totally agree with the original question - men need to step up and take responsibility in many cases! If your one night stand gets pregnant, it was with YOUR seed. Be a man and help her out. You took the same risk she did. If your girlfriend gets pregnant, it was with YOUR help!! BE A MAN not a wimpy little boy who is scared to take responsibility for his actions.

Answer 4

That is a good point. It takes 2 to create a life. Both have the responsibility to see that life is saved. Given love and understanding. The man is just as responsible for the sin of abortion as the woman. And it is a sin. I do Ultrasound for a living and if you have seen the things I see you would know that every life is a gift that should not be thrown away. I believe that God is born in us. If you have ever seen a fetal heart in utero on ultrasound, I am telling you it is a cross. I do not that happens by accident.

Answer 5

I do not condone abortion as a form of birth control, however, I would like to know where you get your statistics from. Rape or incest are not the only reasons a woman would get an abortion either. I know a woman who almost died carrying her child. She was told if she were to get pregnant again, it would kill her and the baby would never make it. This would leave her husband alone to raise their child as well as no mother for her child. She is doing everything in her power to not get pregnant, but I should mention she was on birth control pills when she got pregnant before. I understand your point, but too many pro-lifers refuse to see that there are situations that may be out of a woman's control. If it were someone you knew or yourself, wouldn't you like to know that there is support for you? I have seen this situation cause a lot of distress for her, I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

Answer 6

I think another overlooked aspect of this situation is the stigma that society places on women who choose to give their child up for adoption. They are forced to endure a family that is disapproving, yet unwilling to support the woman should she decide to keep the baby; snickers and disapproval from people in general who know what she did (in fact, some would consider her an unfeeling monster); as well as any guilt and/or regrets they themselves may feel in regards to their decision. And...it follows them all of their lives.

A woman who gives a child up for adoption has made a brave and selfless choice. The way they are treated is appalling.

Answer 7

Most of them time abortion is discussed, is when neither woman nor man is really ready to raise a child. And I say good--better to stop the pregnancy ASAP than take on such a huge responsibility as child-rearing before one is 100% willing and able (financially and maturity-wise) to take on that responsibility.

P.S. Adoption would be a good alternative if the adoption system wasn't already overflowing with children. A child does not get a good start in life growing up in one of those places. And unless they're white infants with no health problems, they will be spending many years there (with NO FAMILY, mind you) before they can hope to be taken in by anyone.

People who are like "NO ABORTION EVER" don't think about the kind of life one is very possibly condemning a child to by forcing a women to carry out an unwanted/unintended pregnancy. On the other hand, a promptly done abortion causes no pain to the embryo, and it's not even self-aware yet, so it can't lament being put out of existence (this puts it below the average housefly on levels of sentience, yet ironically, no one really raises a stink about killing them. Hell, they've got millions more cells in their bodies than embryos do!). Is that really so much worse than giving birth to a child who is going to grow up in a broken home? What's wrong with having an abortion, and waiting until one is really READY to raise a child?

Answer 8

I'm still gonna stick with my opinion that it's entirely up to the would-be mother. It's her that'll have to go through with it and it's entirely her decision.

And all you bleeding heart types out there screaming "Oh she could just put it up for adoption rather than kill it", are you even considering that the mother will then have to carry the baby to term and deliver it or that there are already several thousands of children that need to be adopted yet sit alone in homes and disfunctional foster families? On top of risking her life (yes, pregnancy is very risky business) to deliver the baby, the mother is expected to force the child into an unloving world?

Answer 9

It is a hard decision, no matter what the reason.

I've only known a few women who admitted to having abortions, but all of them were torn and made the decision in anguish.

Women's reasons for choosing abortion are none of my business. I am a gay male and will never have to make that awful choice, so I reserve comment and pray for all parties involved.

Answer 10

I'm not surprised by that statistic at all.

I am pro-choice - but I'm also pro-"use your brain."

Abortion is not birth control.

It's unfortunate that so many women use abortion for convenience. However - I DO believe it is sometimes necessary due to rape or health risks. Therefor - I am pro-choice.