I am 32 and she is 1 mo. from being 23, I just found out that she thinks my son is lazy and not motivated, and she thinks he struggles in school (he doesn't struggle, he's an A,B student, I think he has just gotten bored and I have had to press on him a little bit lately)
She is an athlete and is very active, I feel that I have fallen for her but now I feel that it is wrong for me to love her. I do not want to love someone that feels this way about my son. This does not change the way I feel about her!!!!! I would just like some opinions...
2007-10-19 03:15:10 · 15 answers · asked by rob3437 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To reply to some of the responses... I found out on "Yahoo Answers" She posted a question and I just happened to read it when I was on here... She does not know that I know yet... She really is a mature person and she has only been around him twice.... We are going out of town this weekend and they will be around each other quite a bit so I will feel it out.
2007-10-19 04:41:39 · update #1
Response to tjnstlouismo,
Well for someone who has 24 year old twins; you should know something like this.... right? Well maybe not in my case, you should try knowing someone before you pass judgment... There are a lot of things a 32 year old person can have in common with a 22 year old... I don't believe you should limit your life around age! There are a lot of great things we "as PEOPLE" not judging by age can share with each other and LEARN from each other (regardless of age) I have learned a lot from being a father of a 13 year old son... If some people would open up and not be so narrow minded with a bad case of "MY WAY OF THINKING ONLY" then I think everyone gain a great bit of knowledge... Try listening to your daughters sometime; you might actually learn that you have more in common with them than you think (even if you are much older than them)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-19 11:32:33 · update #2
Just because she thinks he is lazy, not motivated and struggles in school does not mean that she doesn't like your son. Sounds to me like she is comfortable enough to express her thoughts with you. Maybe she needs to take it easy though. Children are a touchy subject. Everyone knows that when you are dealing with a man or a woman with a child that it is a package deal. Do you seriously think she would tell you these things to upset you? I think she told you because she cares.
As a parent myself, I know it can be hard to hear what others have to say when it comes to your child. Our children are our pride and joy.
2007-10-19 03:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to talked to her about this? It may not be that she doesnt like him just that she doesnt like some thing about him there is a very big difference I think the two of you need to talk about it and get it in the open between the two of you of course. If it is truly that she doesn't like your son it will never work as much as you have fallen for her now in time you will grow to resent her when you are having to feel that you have to defend your child all the time. I don't know I would give this one some serious thought
2007-10-19 03:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by Meesha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she is really young and doesn't probably understand how important certain things are. Give her some time and you need to sit down with her and talk to her and tell her how it makes you feel and how it would make your son feel. I had a daughter when i met my husband but i do have to say that if he didn't like my daughter he would have been gone. When it comes to your kid and a relationship, your kid comes first. Just talk to her and try to make her understand or just don't bring her around your son.
2007-10-19 03:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by Tessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love? Ok, if that's your story. You are 32 and you are saying you have enough in common with a 22yr old to consider her for a g/f. Sure. Well as the mom of 24yr daughters, I can tell you that this girl hasn't enough experience to understand that criticizing someones child is a big red flag, or it should be. Try thinking with your big brain and date women your own age who have alittle living under their belt. You owe your son better than that and its your job to protect him.
2007-10-19 03:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I know you love this woman...I can tell. However, her low opinion of your son concerns me greatly. After all, don't you know your son best? Your son should be your main priority. If a man did not accept and love my children as his own....he would not be my man. (By the way, it might have something to do with her age...just maybe.) All the best to you and your beautiful boy.
2007-10-19 03:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by Dana D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did you "find out" that your girlfriend thinks those things about your son? Without a doubt your son should come first. Could you talk to her about this? Ask her why she thinks your son is not motivated and such.
2007-10-19 03:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by Jellybean had her little bean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your son should always come first, but its not wrong to love her. I think that you sould talk to her about it and tell her "That I still love you but I don't like you saying that my son struggles in school and is lazy. That is your opinon but don't say that to me, keep it to yourself". I am sure she will understand but if she dosn't she is not the right girl for you. Hope you like my answer!
2007-10-19 04:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by n♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ANY friction between her and your son will cause problems for you - he should be your number one priority ALWAYS!! There are millions of women out there - surely one or two will accept your son AND you! NEVER bring a stranger in that cannot be happy with your team!
2007-10-19 03:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is jealous of your relationship with your son. She is trying to belittle him to get you to push him aside so she can get your full attention at all times. I had this done to myself with my son. You should never alow anyone to try to push your children aside no matter what feelings you have for that person. Good luck!
2007-10-19 03:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by chell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I couldn't be involved with someone who had a low opinion of my son. It isn't good for him. It wouldn't be good for her. I wouldn't be good for me. I'm a father first, so he comes before all else.
2007-10-19 03:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋