How do you mend a broken heart?

Question

Me an my boyfriend of a year are going through a break up, although its not been confirmed I can tell it is happening an we are joint by a thread. Ive been trying not to face reality but its starting to hit me now and I cannot cope. It feels like my whole life is being dragged on a downward spiral, im just not interested in anything anymore. All i can think about is him and what Im going to do when he is eventually gone. I love him so much and have never felt like this about anybody but the damage in our relationship is now beyond repair. There isnt anything I can do now. But I would like to know what I can do to get through this. Thanks :)

Answer 1

Well watever happnd was bad but accept d reality dat its over..........if u can save it and desperately wanna save it u betta spek to ur guy.........& d best way to mend it to go for a shoppin spree.........pamper urself thru parlour...........go off for some holidays..............trust me u will feel better
obviously dis happnd b'coz u certainly deserve some1 better

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Breaking up is really awful. And I feel for you.

The only cure for a broken heart is time, time and more time.

The hardest thing is to admit things aren't going well and that it's time to end it. BUT - like a cancerous growth, it's best to cut it out cleanly and quickly than to let it linger and fester and spread and a host of other icky things.

First, gather your support team around you - friends & family who will give you sanctuary while you're down.

Level with your BF and tell him that you love him but it's time to part as friends rather than enemies.

OH - and do this now before the holidays - there's nothing worse than being stuck at home in your jammies and scuffy slippers on New Years Eve. If you make things final now at least you'll have time to gather your support team around you for Christmas through Valentines.

So you go home. You cry. You pound pillows. You go to the park and kick rocks.

Then you settle into something routine where you DO get pleasure - your favorite hobby, school, work - learn a new skill so you can earn more money. Read the Great Novels of the world - so you can be intellectual... Lose those 25 lbs you've been promising yourself you'll lose someday.

You'll have to do this as route - for now - because right now you're hurting and all you can think of is the hurt and sadness.

For a while, men will be mossy, creeky, smelly, idiotic, shallow and selfish. That's ok. You shouldn't even be looking for a relationship right now - no matter what anyone else says. You need time to heal.

Indeed - not giving yourself time to heal and reflect on what happened will only lead you to repeating the same mistake with another man. So give yourself a LOT of time to heal before venturing out in the world of dating. It's ok to be alone.

BUT one day - especially when you are least expecting it - the sun will shine. You'll have lost those 25 pounds (or some other just as impressive accomplishment) and you'll look great in that new Prada so you wear it.

And suddenly that rumpled toad who sits next to you in your statistics class (you're getting your MBA, btw) asks if he can meet you for coffee after class - and you say "why, I'd be delighted." AND he turns out to be not nearly so much a rumpled toad - but more of a nice, handsome man who genuinely likes you for the treasured woman you are...

So give it time, dear. This happens to everyone.

We're pulling for ya!

Answer 4

You are grieving for your relationship. Talk about it with your friends, until you explore it enough to accept the inevitable.

Then date several guys, don't form a relationship with any of them, just get used to the idea that there are other interesting guys out there. If you form a relationship before you are completely over someone you love, it won't last and you will hurt the new guy.

After about a year, you will be able to talk to your ex, and feel nothing, not remorse, not anger, nor even jealousy when you see him with another girl. You are now ready for a new relationship, maybe with one of the guys you dated, or somebody new.

Answer 5

Sorry u are going thru that. Like other people said, time. It really does heal all wounds. In the meantime I suggest spending a lot of time with your good friends. Mine have helped me get through some rough break-ups. Don't mope around feeling sad too much either, try and keep busy and you will see that life goes on.

Answer 6

i know how you feel. i am going through the exact same thing right now. except we broke up last night. time may heal all wounds, but just letting time heal your wounds will take a while. the first thing i did last night was take everything that he has ever givin me and put it in a box, then i put the box in a room i never go into, and shut the door. when i feel tempted to go in there i just tell myself no. do this, it will help a little and even the littlest bit helps! then invite your friends over (i did this too)...go to the mall, see a movie, go to the park...anything! get your mind off him. dont think about him. if you do think about him, try to think of why you broke up, how you are better off without him. this is hard, but you can do it! just be strong. if you need to cry then cry. crying helps sometimes, just dont wallow. that will make things worse. doing fun things and even talking about your relationship will help. just make sure its with your best friends or your family. that always helps. you wont feel better ASAP but in a few days or maybe even a week or two, you will feel much better. you just cant allow yourself to go crazy about it...dont think about how you miss him or love him. think about how you are both better off without eachother. it will be ok, i promise. and if you need someone to talk to feel free to contact me. breaking up is not easy to do at all. but everything will be ok in the end. i really hope i helped.

Answer 7

People deal with break ups in their own way. It's almost like a grieving process when some one dies. The only real answer is...Time. You will get through this and you will move on, it'll just take time. Try to occupy yourself with things you like to do. Keep busy,go out with friends. But in the end, Time will pass and you'll be ok.

Answer 8

There's no other way, but to go through it.
There are things we can't run away from, or hide. We just have to face them, and we become stronger and wiser when we come at the other end.
In time, you'll feel better, and I promise that the pain does ebb away, to eventually completely disappear, even when the memory doesn't.
Good luck.xxx

Answer 9

Time will heal the pain... believe ne,i've been there too before... try hiding all the things that will make you remember him, avoid going to places that you've been dating before and doin something that you both enjoyed before... the fire will stop burnin if you will get the woods burned under it,just like in relationship...give your time some space,keep bz and try new things that might enhance your skills...

Answer 10

Time