My 4 year old seems to be keeping bad company!!?

Question

My friend pulled me to one side at school this morning she works there and looks after the nursery class that my son is in, half of the children that were in his class moved up to reception in september including his best friend but he doesn't move up until january but he has started to play with another little boy in his class and has started to get into trouble he even got put on the wall yesterday. I know someone out there is going to say "o and your kids an angel i suppose" but my son is usually a good child he's never been put on the wall before or been in trouble and my friend even said its not my son its the other kid but my son is just going along with him. What do i do? can i really tell my 4 year old hes not allowed to play with this kid?

Answer 1

No this is part of life. Let him play with the boy. Soon he will learn only trouble awaits him there. As a parent, I wouldn't step in until the teacher request your help dealing with his behavior. If that day comes, you need to come down on him like a ton of bricks. In our home it's a spanking, you chose what best works for him.

In short give the teachers your full support, allow them to handle it (putting them on the wall) with out intervening. If a day comes that they (teachers) need you, support them.

Answer 2

If your son has just lost his best friend I wouldn't break him up from his new one. I think this could dent his confidence and you may then have issues with him actually going to nursery.
Just talk to him calmly about right and wrong and ask him to put his self in the postion of what has happened.How would he feel etc. and that it is ok to walk away / not join in when others do the wrong thing. Let him start to draw his own conclusions of right and wrong.

However you also need to talk to the nursery is it boredom or lack of supervision? ..... if they already know there is a problem with the other boy why isn't it being dealt with?

look toward January - how big an issue is this? Take it from me the discipline in school is totally different to nursery and you will see a big change in him then. Try not to crush his independence now you might regret it in a few months.

good luck

Answer 3

I don't know what put on the wall means, presumably it's some type of discipline like put in the corner? Well, just ask your son if he liked being put on the wall (sounds dangerous actually!). If he says no, tell him that it's because he played with the other boy that he got put there and if he keeps playing with this boy, he is going to be put back there. Even a four year old can follow reasoning that simple.

On the other hand, if he says that he does like it, then you have a problem(!)

Answer 4

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Answer 5

hey... I have a 4 year old son too hes just started reception and is mixing with some kids that id rather he didnt aswell. Its a tough one but if i was you i wouldent worry too much. Hes only 4 not 14 they arent about to go commiting petty crime and smoking drugs - this wont effect his education or behaviour long term even if he goes through a phase of being naughty for a few months he will get out of it when he starts reception. Its annoying for you I know but its not a long term situation and kids need different kinds of experiences and to meet different people in life. Talk to him and say- the way this other little boy behaves is wrong and although its ok for him to be his friend he must not copy him because if he does your be cross . xxx

Answer 6

Try not to over analyse things. This is all perfectly normal. Your son has chosen a friend and you should allow him to keep that friend even if he's getting into trouble because of him. He's only 4 !There a lot worse things then getting into trouble occasionally. Chances are he'll soon realise that his new friend means he's getting into trouble and will move on to other friends of his own accord and in his own time. Stop worrying and relaxxxxxx !!!!!

Answer 7

yes and you should and the teacher of this class needs to keep them apart.

i am dealing with this same issue with my son at school he is four and following up another boy my son is no angel but hes not mean either

Answer 8

just tell him that the boy he is playing with is a naughty boy and hes no allowed to play with naughty boys

Answer 9

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Answer 10

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