How can I lose my fear of rejection?

Question

I get scared because, there are billions of better looking than me, she knows she is good looking so she would knows she can have good looking guy and and she might have guy who she is interesting to or she have boy friend. By the way is it bad idea to ask "do u have boyfriend"?

Answer 1

It is not a bad idea to ask.

But it is important to know how to ask.

This is the most simplest way to ask, invite her to share a soft drink or coffee, but make sure that you say " if you can spare few mines I would like you to join me at the cafeteria" for a cup of coffee or soft drink with me I would like to know you batter". It Will be up to her, do not be surprise if she says sure. But be prepared for any other answer including a very insulting statement, if so you do not want any thing to do with her any way.

See what happens, nothing venture nothing gain. Get this thing out of your system.

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Fear
By
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Fear is a good thing.

It is there to protect you.

It takes determination and some help to overcome the fear.

eg Fear of darkness, height, travel....all this are very good fear to have but it must not over power ones life. It should make you alert to the situation.

Darkness, if it makes you alert the chances of tripping and falling are less.

Height, if you have this fear you will be careful and stay clear of the dangerous situation and avoid falling of a cliff.

Travel, if you are alert because of this fear it will make your journey safer.

The trick is to face the fear and turn it in to an added advantage to you by being cautious.

Answer 2

Don't make the mistake of pushing someone away out of fear , if someone gets close to you and you do is say oh you can find someone better then me , they eventually will. Everyone has something unique to offer and looks fade. Find what is special about you , personality is a lot more important then looks. And its not bad to ask if someone has a boyfriend its fine and a good way to get to know if you have a chance or not. Rejection isnt something you should fear , you learn from it and if it wasnt ment to be than so be it. Just remember if someone rejects you you can make it on your on.

Answer 3

You need to understand why people are rejecting you. In most cases it's not because there's anything wrong with you. People reject you because they are not ready for a relationship, want to play hard to get or have baggage. So when someone rejects you it's not because of you, it's because of them. There's no need to be afraid of other peoples problems. If someone rejects you then they probably arent good enough for you anyway.

Ps. don't ask a girl about her relationship staus. She will make that clear to you whenever she is ready to. Once you ask that question she'll know what your intentions are and will have the upper hand and be able to toy with you.

Answer 4

listen, the fact that your scare from all this things means that you have to experience them so that you can understand that there is nothing wrong with them ( expect dying. don't try that!) anyway, so i would say that you are ready! I'm scared of rejection too, and that's way i would always dump my boyfriends... because i couldn't stand the fact that someone will reject me, but then it happened, and believe me i am happy it happened because it made me stronger, it made know that i can't be always and that i have to deal with my fears! don't be scared from anger because when you get angry you can express what you feel but on a very... um... mean way(lol) all this things your scared off are like life. you have to grow up and face reality, and reality isn't always nice, so good luck! and i really do hope i helped you! xoxoxoxoxo

Answer 5

Rejection is a simple and absolute component of the human experience. Let's both hope you never lose fear of rejection. Without it, acceptance would have no value.

Answer 6

Hi Dude,

First of all let me tell you something , if you think looks are the only thing could get you a girl then you are wrong,
It dosent matter how we look , what matters is the character and the attitude we have.

Just be yourself ,first get to know her and understand her completely (at least try to understand her) and then think ,are you suitable for her?

if you think yes go ahead and ask her.Never restrain just because you are not good looking , even iam not good looking but that dosent stop me from expressing...

yeah it is kind of weird if you ask a girl "that you have a boy friend".. ,don't do that.

Cheers and Chillax
Prince

Answer 7

Everyone has this fear, everyone wants to be needed and loved. When you meet someone, don't worry about if they are good looking or not, just look for someone that has the same interests that you do. Most matches grow because they enjoy the same thing and then find out that they enjoy each others company.

Answer 8

carefully plant you question in a casual conversation. Maybe catch her when she says something a little dirty or does something and while you are both laughing plant a statement like" boy you boyfriend probally would not want you to be sayin that" or if you don't talk to her much then start as friends, friendship is a true key. Also she would be flattered by you asking, although if you two don't talk much then it can be a turn off.

Answer 9

If you dont ask, how will you know if they are single or not.

To work on your fear of rejection, you need to build your confidence. Things like `there are billions better looking than me` that attitude is not the one you need when you approach any girl. we have a radar, and the vindictive girls will pick on that! So beware.

Once you start to see yourself as a good looking guy who has something, women will start wanting you too. Exude charm, and if you dont have it, fake it til you make it!

Godd luck on that, I have faith in you , and i have never met you!

Answer 10

Rejection is a part of life. You'll get used to it as time goes on. Girls won't be the only thing rejecting you in this life.