My ex and I dated for over 4 years. We broke up about 4 months ago over a miscommunication. During a conversation after our breakup, he promised me that once we got it together, we would try again to fix our mistakes and make it work. We have been around each other since we share the same phone line and we attend the same university. About a month ago, we started seriously talking about us getting back together. Now we act just like a couple, only we're not. Lately, he's been saying he is really thinking about us getting back together but he is afraid that it won't work out and we will have to go through the whole break up thing again. I am not so nervous. We have worked so hard to fix our problems and we are both happy with each other so I think we should. He asked me yesterday if I would feel weird if we went back together now cuz he wants to keep his promise and not necessarily because he wants to. I told him that he is just afraid of the hurt because we are together like that now.
2007-10-18 22:47:44 · 4 answers · asked by First Lady 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And I reassure him that nothing will change between us, we will just be working on our relationship. Do you think this is strange? What do you think I should do? PLEASE HELP
2007-10-18 22:48:29 · update #1
If he is doing it because I believe it will work, is that bad?
2007-10-18 22:48:49 · update #2
Neither of us are seeing other people, we haven't seen other people since our breakup either
2007-10-18 22:58:38 · update #3
fissy: READ IT
2007-10-18 23:24:39 · update #4
I have been separated from my wife of ten years for 7 months now after spending months and months of trying to resolve the issues between us but to no avail. Both of us believe that we will get back together eventually, but at the moment our emotions are still a bit raw. Perhaps you haven't given yourselves enough time-out from each other to really get yourselves together and work out what you need from the other person. I'd always believed that if you love someone enough, you should be able to work things out together, but I have proved myself wrong.
There is nothing I would love more in the world than to be with my wife and family but I certainly wouldn't want to be repeating our mistakes.
2007-10-18 23:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by MH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not mention if you were seeing other people. Maybe he has second thoughts about losing his freedom. If not, it can not hurt to try if you both go into it with open eyes. You must both decide that if it does not work for either one of you, the other will be understanding and back off without incident.
2007-10-19 05:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you back & you should take him back.
2007-10-19 05:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats the point of ur question?
2007-10-19 06:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by f_i_f_o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋