she knew me as a active person who loves to exercise. I tried to help her , but she is never motivated. she knows she wants to lose weight, but no effort seems to be put in it.
I ended up gaining 20 pounds over the last 3 years. she's about 165. 5 feet. i know you should love someone from the inside... but how do you explain her being paranoid and jealous even a phone call with a guy friend when i am with her!? she checks me emails, monitor me everywhere. even oversea when i was studying, she checks school's club photos on the website for any update of me or anyone.
I run away from camera when they want to take a picture of me!
I told her to stop being jealous. She says she has no insecurities..is it because she feels fat and no one will love her like I do?
I can't stand it, sometimes I sigh* when I see normal size girls
2007-10-18 21:45:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hahahaha I am sorry but oh my god dude!! This line just made my whole week better.
I run away from camera when they want to take a picture of me!
On a serious note, you need to get rid of her. I had a girlfriend like this before. It is not a very dance to tango to. If you try and confront her about it, and ask her to stop, she will get all pissy and bitchy at you. You cannot teach an old dog new tricks. She is going to be like this the rest of your relationship with her. Is this how you want to spend your life?!?! Miserable and unhappy, constantly being watched like some sort of jail bound prison who has no rights? You know you are worth way more than that. She is acting like more of a stalker than a girlfriend. End it, for all us, end it. And also, remember to change your passwords afterwards.
2007-10-18 21:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No insecurities? And De Nile is a river in Africa ....
No, I think you're falling out of love rapidly .... and I suspect you go for girls who you think 'need' you to help them, which is never a good thing. Clearly she has issues with control and this has to do with her weight, and there's really nothing you can do about this.
She will probably shout that you left her because she is fat, and you can continue to insist that you didn't like her paranoia and the accusations and how her lack of motivation to lose weight has caused you to gain weight.
I think you are going to leave her, despite the fact that, as you say, no-one will love her like you do . Her issues are in her mind, and this has spilled over into her body. She needs professional help, but until she admits that she has a problem, you cannot help her. She's just too heavy for her height, and this is not good for her health.
2007-10-19 04:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd tell her ' Don't worry, I'll always love you although, you do something badly '. She does something like that because she LOVES YOU!!! It's doesn't matter.I think you should think of something that she does for you . Leave her...it's not a good way.Think twice.
The problem that you told is very funny.lol Some women do something like that. Maybe you should talk with her again but don't feel angry when she disagree.
I hope I'll hear a good news soon. : )
2007-10-19 05:03:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably doing that to you because she IS insecure and wants to keep you despite her size.
If she's not going to lose weight even if she /says/ she wants to, and you're an active person and you can't deal with that anymore, explain it.
But don't be like, "you're fat i don't want to date you bye" because that'll be really rude, obviously. Just make it clear that her not being active makes you less satisfied in the relationship because you enjoy being active.
2007-10-19 04:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick that fat lazy tub to the curb man. If she doesn't care enough about her looks to work on it, and doesn't care enough about at least trying to be attractive for you dump her. She is just jealous because she is afraid you might stray to someone who has enough motivation and self worth to attempt to be the best she can be.
2007-10-19 04:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by dazedandconfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break it off there isn't any trust in the relationship forget about the weight her having no trust should be the biggest issue right now. do you love her? and should she be insecure about anything trust is meant to be built not broken maybe you did something or said something to make her feel that way
2007-10-19 04:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound miserable ..... ask yourself only yourself... do you love her enough to take whatever she is .... or you want her to change but she is not changing becos she is selfish... I really think you should stay away from each other for a while and then decide if you want to carry on the relationship
2007-10-19 04:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its simple if you dont like a girl tell them. They might not like it at first but they'll thank you later for being honest.
2007-10-19 04:48:45 · answer #8 · answered by Oghale O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her quick run to the nearest exit and save your soul
2007-10-19 04:47:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is 165, try to share with another guy!!
2007-10-19 05:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋