Long story short: met a guy online, spent 2 weeks talking to him online & phone. Met him a few days ago, hit it off, kissed/made out. He wanted to sleep with me and although he's hot as hell, I declined. Next day we communicated/made plans about getting back together that night for a session. He blew me off then flew out of town for the weekend. Monday he & I exchanged messages online and I told him I'd like to get together again. He said he didn't see why we couldn't. No definite plans were made & I didn't talk to him for a couple of days. Last night I logged into Yahoo Msgr. and he had left me an offline message of "hi!". I think he's a bit of a player but a FWB would suit my life well at this point. I just don't want him to think that I'm wanting to date him or anything-I don't think he's wanting that either. How do I know if he's interested or not? And how do I suggest a hookup and make it clear I don't want/expect a relationship? Do I just tell him I wanna f*** him?
2007-10-18 20:58:55 · 5 answers · asked by CRM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For the record, the night we were together and I didn't sleep with him...it wasn't an attempt on my part to play games, I had to go to work just a little later and simply did not have the time.
2007-10-18 21:00:31 · update #1
No...we didn't spend the whole night together...just an hour or so that evening before I had to go work night shift.
2007-10-18 21:08:07 · update #2
I think you should ask him exactly what kind of a relationship he is looking for...Then you can gauge from there if you want to be open and tell him look I'm not looking for something serious but I am looking for someone who will occassionally warm my bed and share my company when called to do so...And maybe work it from there...
LOL my husband of 10 yrs was originally supposed to just be my "Booty Call".Yeah he was just that good hehehehe it happens...
M.G
2007-10-18 21:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by Malia G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him a message and tell him briefly and bluntly exactly what you want. I am too embarrassed to tell you what to say, because I don't use such language when talking with a lady, but if you can read between the lines, just say "Hey Stud. Good to hear from you. Want to get together for a hot _ _ _ _ sometime soon?" I think he'll know what you want.
2007-10-19 04:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get a communication going, you can hint about not being ready for a permanent relationship yet. Just remember that, statistically, at least 35% of the people online looking for dates are already attached or married. Be careful you don't get into one of those situations.
2007-10-19 04:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him you just want to f*** him! LOL! I mean, that is being really really honest but better to play him along a bit as well, cause it sounds like he is doing that to you. You could say how much you enjoyed making out and how about you make out again sometime, no strings attached and see what happens from there. Casual sex is dangerous, didn't you know that ! You could catch anything!!
2007-10-19 04:05:40 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dazed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You spent the night together but didn't sleep....must have been one hell of a night. The poor man must have been knackered.
2007-10-19 04:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋