I am way too shy i don't speak much because i get very nervous around people i don't know i don't know how to make a conversation and when meeting people is very hard to make friends because i get shaky my heart beats really fast and my hands start to sweat i cant think of anything to start a conversation or keep it going this is also affecting my career because i have a lot of knowledge and mostly have all the skills desired by the employer but in the interview they always notice that i am shy and disqualify me right away how can i get over this?
2007-10-18 19:52:56 · 6 answers · asked by Vane 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Got to the library and get some books on improving self esteem. One i read was called "How to Win friends and Infleuence People" if i remember correctly. It really helped me.
Just remember that you are just as good as anyone else, and better than many!!
2007-10-18 20:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well this is not really an answer, but a another question on the topic. I'm 18 and because of this shyness i never got any friends, so how do you make friends? People don't just wake up to you, but neither do, sorry, cant i... The only solution that helped me, was talking to others on the Internet in the chat rooms... But that do last long either...
2007-10-19 03:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by Eclips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be just like you so I understand you perfectly.
Remember that shyness is only fear... fear of people.
But! If you really really want to get rid of your shyness you need an aggressive approach.
You have to look your fear into the eyes and fight it like crazy.
Try doing things that you'd never do and challenge your shyness:
- organize a party and be the host. make a speech in front of all the guests.
- go to a karaoke bar and sing in front of people.
- talk to people you don't know, at school or work and make new friends.
Just keep challenging yourself everyday and soon your shyness will go away for good!
If you don't do nothing your shyness will stay with you for the rest of your life.
2007-10-19 04:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by Grunger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure you have a few friends so gather them up, and let them invite their friends. Youll feel more comfortable when around people u already know, and itll make it easier on you to make some friends.
Just repeat that i guess? and im pretty sure ull get the hang of making friends.
2007-10-19 03:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by Superman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal,especially when you are not exposed to that kind of life...try to socialized....dont be afraid...people will not bit you...just tell yourself "what others do,i can to"...have some friends to accompany you,be friendly.....goodluck!!
2007-10-19 03:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by alphapoison_26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to exposed yourself..or talk about your problem to your friends..mayb they could help..
2007-10-19 03:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by mick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋