Is there peace....?

Question

I'm sick of everything right now. my baby passed away in july. my husband cheats on me. ppl act so uncareing to me. i wonder what i did for this. i believe in God. but it seems i'm just in a thunderstorm all the time. Is there a peace in this life or is this what it is all about? what do i do? How do i fix it? do i need help? i'm lost

Answer 1

Melissa, you do need help and right now. If you don't have a support system, please look up a crisis center in your area and call them. You don't have to give your name but they will listen to you and validate your feelings. You need to know that you are not alone and there are people who will help you.
Grief has no time limit and runs its own course. Losing your baby is a terrible shock to anyone. Perhaps you could join a group that deals with grief. If you have a problem finding help, call your local hospital and ask them who you can speak to. They should be able to give you the number. You spoke of God. Do you attend a church? Some pastors offer counseling or know of Christian Counselors. As far as your husband goes, he may be acting out in grief. Some people cannot deal with things and right now you need to focus on what YOU. need at this present moment. Even though, it may be difficult to actively seek help it is something that will help you in your goal to find peace. A biblical quote, "God helps those who help themselves", should be your mantra. Another saying is, "when God closes a door, He opens a window". I hope this helps you.

Answer 2

My sincere condolences for your many losses. Right now you must feel as if you are all alone in the world and that no one cares about you. Please know that you aren't alone and that there are tons of us that can relate to what you 've been thru. There is a support group for parents that have lost children called Sharing Parents and another one called Compassionate Friends. This might give you some comfort about the loss of your baby. As for your husband cheating.....men and women often deal with their grief in different ways. Some become more isolated and remote and others more outgoing. If your husband's cheating started after the death of your baby, chances are he doesn't want to think or feel or deal with his loss. If it started before, then he's having trouble committing, or there is something not working between the two of you. I'm thinking that some counseling might help you sort thru the issues. If he won't go, then you go by yourself. Your therapist can help you with self-esteem issues that might be keeping you stuck in a very sad place. As for peace in this life? Yes, there is....but sometimes you have to go thru hell to find true meaning to life and the peace that comes from recognizing your strengths, those that truly love you, and how you love yourself.

Answer 3

Grief is something that takes a long time to deal with and often other people don't understand this and expect us to grieve for a long time and then get over it. For some cultures the required grief period is 3 years.

People are not uncaring, but most people don't really understand how you are feeling.

There is no answer to a quick recovery. Though some strategies can help.

My personal approach to difficult times is to go out and help other people. No matter how bad my life is, there are always people who are worse off.

Secondly, make yourself busy with the normal aspects of life. Though make sure you always have time to think and reflect.

If you find you have trouble coping join a local grief support group (you may be able to find one through your local church).

Look forward to a future. Happiness is hard work. Work towards something better for your future and you will be happy.

Answer 4

yep..theres peace, its just hidden away under all that corruption
only way to get there is accept the things that happened to you, and face it,
everything happens and happened for a reason if there is a God, u cant "fix" anything but u can go along with the flow...

I'm sorry for all the things that happened to you, might be hard but, talk to your husband maybe, be straight forward and tell him how u feel.
You have to start moving because nothings gona happen if u just stay lost forever

Answer 5

You are in mourning, that's why you feel like this. That is also what's happening to your husband and he is dealing with it in a very bad way. Talk to him and tell how you feel. Find someone whom you can speak to, a pastor, a friend. You can e-mail me if you want. God is with you through this.

Answer 6

just hang on there !!!! belive in god and dont stop praying ok??!! if you ever need a friend to talk to anytime anywhere you can email me through yahoo answers ok??!!! take care