i need help with being paranoid?

Question

am i too paranoid, i have always been i trust no one EVER and its really starting to hurt me living with 3 other girls that you never trust every time some one shuts there door of giggles my mind starts to race,and i do thing at odd time to help calm me down like the other day i was up till 5 am redoing our kitchen so thing where in the right place. and to top all this off i have VERY bad social anxiety. i dont want to be like this anymore but i cant even go to counseling cuz i get worried about what the person will think or say. i know i sound crazy i prob. am

Am i crazy?
what can i do?

doctors judge people too, everyone does.

I did go to a professional once, but i was to scared to go back. and when i was there i couldn't talk nothing would come out

i know im not so important, and i grew up in a home where i was free to do as i liked i never had a time to come home or a list of things i could or could not do my mom dad or step dad dont drink and im not good at anything im bad at school and have no talent

Answer 1

this is how i see it.. maybe no one can help you but a professional.. so you have two choices. feel this way the rest of your life.. or take the chance ONCE... of trying to get help. after you do you will live such a happier life. besides no one will judge you.. especially not the doctors. if anything family and friends might but you dont have to tell them. good luck :)

Answer 2

You most probably need to seek therapy.

Until you get help, try thinking about this:

!. You are not so important that everyone concentrates on your faults, etc..all of the time.

2. You can't please everyone all of the time. Be grateful that you can please a few some of the time.

3. It is none of anyone else's business what you do.

4. You are not put on this earth to live up to any other human being's standards. As long as you are not harming others or breaking the law, you can do or say anything you want. It is good to be an individual, not to be a follower.

5. You are as good as the best, and better than the rest!!!

6. Opinions are like a$$holes. Everyone has one!!

Good luck. Just be yourself and quit worrying about what others think. They do not have to walk in your shoes.

Answer 3

U need some kind of help. But u r not crazy. If u r really worried about what a therapist will think of u, just remember that these people help others alot like u or worse every day. It would not be something they have never seen or heard of before. Just be picky about the therapist u choose. Most communities have local mental health clinics free of charge or next 2 free. Out of experience I know that it can help>wish u well

Answer 4

Umm, Did you come from an alcoholic family? Or one like it?
You seem to have more trouble with anxiety. And no, you
probably came from a family where control (usually 1 or both parents) are hyper alert to what's going on out in the world,
leaving you with the impression the world is a very scary place. It can be. We take precautions, right?
I meant to say no you aren't crazy, I just retired as a therapist of many years and you are definitely not crazy.
Don't be too hard on your self. You don't have to worry about your therapist, she or he is not judgmental and mostly want to help you see that some of your behavior patterns, like
cleaning, are a way you deal with how you feel, if you can't control anything else, you can control the way the kitchen looks....I wonder...Do those girls really think you are so important they are giggling about you? Child, if you have
had to concentrate at home on keeping things from getting out of control, cause if they do, it's your fault, then where is the time to be a kid, to make the easy transition from
being a child to being a young adult? When we are kids, we blame ourself for anything that happens. This is what kids do. It's normal. As we move into young adulthood, we start seeing that we aren't the center, and things that happen aren't our fault. There is no fault here. There is no blaming, I bet you are a perfect student, in fact,
I bet you are very good at everything you do. Except, at having fun. It might be nice to just relax for a change, go to one of the clubs on campus and meet some new people.
Or do what ever you feel like.
Start telling yourself, I m not so special that people talk about
me, just a normal girl, unique, but not special., And it's true isn't it? I don't get special treatment, never did. On campus I got parking. I wait in line like everyone else. Most of the time, I'm not a doc but if I jump the line or I get crazy on the freeway, I may get a very special jail cell or make a lot of folks very angry.
We really aren't what we do. We don't have to prove anything to be unique and loved in the world. Even a Mother Teresa,
who served the poor all her life, had some very strong criticism leveled against her. I was surprised to learn she had doubts about her faith. But she was a mortal, when alive, not
special at all. Just like the rest of us. But she made everyone else the focus of love and caring. Who can be like her?

Who were you going to see? Please get an appointment.
You will be relieved when you find out that there isn't any
wise guru in the office. One who only takes "special" cases, or ones she approves of. Can you smile at this? It would be like a physician who refused to treat boils, or a rash, or swollen glands. Sorry, I only treat special cases that I approve of first.
I would suggest you follow my answers. Read the "best answers," and sign up to be on my list.
You still have a spiritual belief. A little prayer for me will
get you many prayers. In fact, there one goes.
Good luck, and -peace-

Answer 5

Well, you definitely have paranoia. Welcome to the club!

The key is to be mindful of it. Every time you sense it happening, take a step back and tell yourself it's in your head. Eventually you'll automatically dismiss things, but personally, it never goes away completely.

You are the only person in this world whose opinion should matter to you. Nobody else is allowed or entitled to judge you, and if you can make yourself believe that, you'll start to see things differently.

Answer 6

yes, you have a disorder I think i might have the same thing. I usually just remember what my moms once told me. she said, most people are concerned about what other people think about them it is all about who can hide it the Best!