all i think about is making money---i never had a real girlfriend because i chose not too---am i selfish?

Question

and am more comfortable being by myself is there something wrong with that picture?

only time i come close to a girl is when we're talkin or having sex---and after that i become distant from them---until we have sex again---i pretty much dont let anyone come that close to me (emotionally, and am not afraid) except my bestfriend---and we never even had sex with each other let alone touched one another

Answer 1

You are a WINNER! Money is the first thing you should be concerned with. Girls come second. Don't let anyone on this board try to make you feel bad for what you are doing. You are doing what is right! Others are jealous and will try to make you lose your focus.

Women come and go, but if you are smart, money is forever!

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Answer 2

As long as the women you've been with/are with understand, then no. You're not selfish. You are just not ready to be in an exclusive relationship. So what? When you are, you'll know. I can tell you this, when you do decide to commit, it will end up being w/ your bestfriend. You may not realize it now, but, you will. Good luck, and don't second guess yourself!

Answer 3

As long as the female knows your intentions, you are fine. However, is it really because you just want to make money, you haven't met the right person yet or have you been hurt? I know that most men have a hard time recovering from past hurt and tend to have commitment issues...but I'm not saying that's your case. As long as you are honest and up front with the females, you're not being selfish. They have themselves to blame if they get wrapped up in you.

Answer 4

I wouldn't say you're selfish. I think that there's something lurking under the surface you're not addressing. It could be as simple as you want to make yourself the best possible mate (by having all the money made) before you decide to have a real girlfriend.... or something more deep rooted. I don't know you or your history so I'm not going to speculate... But I think some self reflection could be helpful!

Answer 5

If you don't want a girlfriend there is nothing wrong with that. The only think that would make it selfish, would be if you gave someone the impression you were interested in that sort of relationship when you only wanted sex.

Answer 6

It's not typical and the reasons for it are more complex than we have room or time for.

However, providing that you are not promising your bedmates more than sex and that you make your money ethically, kudos to you for being aware that you value this over other things.

There is nothing wrong with wanting what you want. The only "wrong" is in hurting others getting it. As long as you continue to be forthcoming to your flings, ethical in your business practices (if not compassionate), and true to yourself (be sure that this is really what you want), there is no harm here.

Answer 7

You are just like the rest of us. But you have a few things to learn, grasshopper.

We pretend to like women when we're not having sex with them. That gets us more sex.

Answer 8

if that is what you want in life, then nobody should tell you what to do....we all have different priorities in life and if making money is what makes you happy, then go for it...but i only hope that you have made it clear to girls that you have sex with, that its just a physical thing and no emotional attachments (and they agree with it)...they might be hoping for more and they would end up getting hurt....if you havent made this clear...there's an indication that you're just using them for pleasure....that's not good...

Answer 9

I don't think you are selfish. Just be honest with people, especially if you are having sexual relations with them. Make sure they know where you stand.

Answer 10

Are you in love with your money? That may explain the reason you are selfish with women.