i broke up with my boyfriend because i hate his daughter,she's a brat,but instead i told him that i was'nt ready for a serious relationship
2007-10-18 18:56:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO you shouldn't. What good can possibly come of it? It will only make him defensive. It's not like you telling him is going to change his daughter's personality.
2007-10-18 19:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by Lost Leo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I would say honesty is the best policy however when it comes to someones child I think you should just stick with the "i wasn't ready for a relationship" line. In the event that later in life you would want to get back together or have any kind of friendship you won't want him angry at you because you called his child a brat. I'd remain tight lipped on this one! =) Good luck.
2007-10-19 02:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by grace 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, some things are better left unsaid. Personally, if you told me that you broke up with me because of my daughter, then I would not be broken-hearted. It's not like you could give him an ultimatum saying, "it's either your daughter or me" because, for any real dad, that's a no-brainer. My daugher would be part of what makes me, me. You wouldn't be able to have one and not the other.
2007-10-19 02:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO, dont tell him the truth!
you most certainly did the right thing!
Especially if he has custody
The child is probably jealous of you and who knows what HER mother has told her to do and say
either way
most parents don't want to hear negative things about their kids
I am sure your ex is no exception
why rock the boat
let someone else get cussed out for that...
he will figure it out soon enough (and then again maybe he wont) either way, you were wise to know that you dont want to deal with this long term-
2007-10-19 02:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always tell the truth in a relationship!!!
Have you ever told him about his daughter???
What has she done to make you hate her???
What does she do to make her a "brat"???
How old is she???
Does she live with him or does he get her on the weekends???
Ponder on these questions and ask yourself this.... is all this really worth giving up on this relationship???
I wish you luck!
2007-10-19 02:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you don't have to tell him. Obviously you didn't feel strongly enough about him to find out a way to deal with his daughter so just let it go and move on.
You might want to mention to him that her behavior was a negative for him (not the whole reason) so he knows this and can possibly work to fix it.
2007-10-19 02:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If you're broken up, what's the point? However, if you are ever considering a reconciliation, this issue will need to be dealt with.
However, if you HATE this daughter, I think you've already made the right move. Move on and think about this no more.
2007-10-19 02:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by Gauffsa 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did tell him the truth! Step children ARE serious, and you couldn't handle it. I'm sure you love your boyfriend, but if you aren't ready to commit to his child, its better that you left. If you were truly ready, you would stay and help figure out how to handle the situation.
2007-10-19 02:02:42 · answer #8 · answered by munkees81 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you pretty much told him the truth.
That is a serious relationship.
BUT if you're not satisfied with your reason for the break up then maybe you should tell him. But that's up to you.
The truth will set you free.
2007-10-19 01:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Isnt that a little harsh? Truth does set a person free.
2007-10-19 02:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by butterflies_fly79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋