2007-10-18 18:51:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
family is important, bcoz we choose a different lover but we can't go for a different family.
2007-10-18 18:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by pradeep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I read your question properly, you are in a position of love the family and lose the person that you want to marry, versus lose that person, and keep your family. My first guess would be to tell the family that if they love you, love the other one that is desired. You really should look into the "why" of the family rejection. They might be right, and have your best interest in mind because they see traits and qualities that you have not seen. The saying that "love is blind" is very true. The final decision is yours, and your future hangs in that balance. You need to step back and analyze the situation carefully. People generally do not change. A wife that constantly tries to get her husband to make changes that she was so sure he would make anyway is only making things worse because he will feel threatened, and resist any way that he can. The woman will feel unloved and rejected. Passion is fine, but a good close look at what really is is also important. Talk to the family, get the why of their issue. If they can't be precise in exactly why, then go with your heart. Just remember that the choice you make is one that is going to affect both near and far future. Just anything that looks good is a poor reason to have and develop a relationship, as is to get away from what seems to be an oppressive family.
2007-10-19 02:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family if they have always been there for you then they always will be. If you are not as close with your family or they are not the best people in the world (that sounds harsh but you know the answer to this or atleast how you feel. We don't choose our families.) then maybe the person you love. There comes a point when you have to make decisions for yourself and not just choose what you want at the time but what is best for you & your future. Those too don't always conincide. I would say if you have a loving supportive family whom you are close with & they don't like this person there is usually a reason. It boggles my mind when I have friends who get so wrapped up in people that they seemingly shut out their family or ignore their insight because they are blinded by "love." If your family or friends are bothering to make it known that they don't approve of this new person or your current status with them it's probablly not just to piss you off. That's what confuses me about people that just pick their bf/gf even when all their friends & family have told them it's a bad decision. If that many people are saying something they obviously don't have a vested interest in seeing you hurt they just want to help you. Take the advice of those with more life experience. It may be painful now but I think if you're honest if you have good parents the times that you have went ahead & done your own thing a lot of times you look back & your parents insight was better than yours. No matter how much you currently love someone most relationships ultimately come & go & it's not worth fracturing your relationship with your family over that. Just because they have always been there for you don't take that for granted.
2007-10-19 02:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by karoni_rain23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to choose. Just give them there equal time, and see how it goes. Who's making you choose?
Personally I would choose the side who isn't asking me to choose. Then maybe they will come around and realize that you can love whoever you want. If you want family and your significant other in your life GO FOR IT
2007-10-19 01:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends how you feel about your family. i came from a remarkable family, i was very lucky. i would always choose family over love but if your love fulfills something in your life that was missing, due to a lack in your family than ...choose love.
why though can you not have both? does your family not approve of your love?
2007-10-19 01:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by azure skye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family comes first. but if you love the other person then you can start your own family
2007-10-19 01:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by stumped on physics 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absurd question.When you love both,how come you want one and not the other unless the basic premise of loving both is bogus?Still,there is way to do it but it's not for you.
2007-10-19 01:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have to choose and on that note don't ever chose between someone you love and fam.
2007-10-19 01:56:31 · answer #8 · answered by Denise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family before anything and anyone else. Always.
2007-10-19 01:59:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think if they were both in the water drowning and you could only save one..........which one would it be hero?
2007-10-19 01:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋