started talking again after two years of not talking to each other;that was about a year ago now & we've grown pretty close again.Which is nice.I missed him alot.Well,today I brought him lunch at work b/c he's super busy working on a project & dosen't have time to go grab something.I cooked some chicken fajitas,rice,white beans,etc.I spent a couple of hours doing this b/c I wanted to surprise him.Well,when I got there it didn't seem like he was happy to see me at all;he more or less blew me off & asked me what I wanted in a antagonistic way.It really hurt my feelings to say the least.I'm upset with him now b/c I feel like he should treat me with amore respect.I was just trying to do something nice for him.It's not like my Mom who goes to see him everyday at work & circles the block 20 times(they're divorced & she's crazy )I hardly ever come to see him at work.And,our family has a really close relationship with his boss.We're like family.I just feel upset about the whole situation.
2007-10-18 18:43:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, Kelly, you did a very good thing for your dad. i'm a dad, too, and the workplace could be a very tough environment for anyone. maybe your dad was in professional mode that moment. that does not excuse him for treating you that way though but do not get discouraged. try to learn the art of forgiving. if you master it you can use it throughout your life. i am a christian and i'm going to pray for you and your dad in my own time. i wish both of you would know Jesus. He can rebuild your family, you know. you can pray to Him,too. God bless you,son. way to go!
2007-10-18 19:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by Whazzup? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the first time he's been like this, it may be that he was just simply overwhelmed at work. It may be that given his history with your mother, he is paranoid that this may be happening here. It may also be that something was up at the office that he didn't want you to know about/see/that you interrupted or could have gotten in the way of.
At any reason, yes, he should have been appreciative of your efforts at the very least. But, as we all know, people are not perfect. Try talking to him about your feelings (something like, "Dad, I felt really hurt when I came over the other day and it felt like you weren't happy to see me") if he is the type to be receptive to that (my dad isn't). See what he says.
As for future visits, perhaps make sure they are always welcome with an advanced call, especially at work. It may help let him know you respect HIS boundaries and life, and that may do wonders to his reactions to you.
2007-10-18 18:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by Gauffsa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did something nice and he should not have reacted the way he did.It could be that he was frustrated about work issues (being so busy) and took it out on you which is awful.I would call him when he is not busy and tell him you were hurt by the way he treated you.Give him a chance to explain himself.
2007-10-18 18:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is he didn't mean to hurt you're feelings. He was probably really busy, stressed, and in the middle of something important. Tell him how you feel, and I'm sure he'll apologize! Don't ever hold bitterness and resentment towards your family. You'll regret it once they're gone.
2007-10-18 18:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by munkees81 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you need to do is to get your homework forward of time out of your academics and get your BOE to agree that the go back and forth is an academic go back and forth (that is particularly convenient if you are going to EPCOT). Your mothers and fathers simply need to write the board a letter explaining that it is an academic go back and forth and that you're going to be dependable for delivering all paintings whilst you go back. Everyone's completely satisfied.
2016-09-05 14:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks your mom put you up to it...
Talk to him later about it, tell him how you feel. It's possible he could have just been having a stressful day at work and was caught off guard. But definitely tell him how you feel.
2007-10-18 18:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by *Penelope* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be that, like you said, he's super busy working on a project. unfortunately, i think most of us are guilty of snapping at people without warrant. i'm sure he'll call later to apologize.
2007-10-18 18:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by The A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself that he's really busy with his project... he was probably just deep into it and you coming passed disturbed his thoughts.
Don't take it personally, just talk to him when he gets home... I'm sure he'll apologise.
2007-10-18 18:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your dad was jst having a bad day at work. i would ask him about it. :( Hope he gets in a better mood!!!
2007-10-18 18:48:01 · answer #9 · answered by Blair C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should be so hard on yourself.. maybe he was just having a bad day. to ease your mind,call him and ask him. tell him how you feel........on the light side :) maybe he didnt like your food....that was a joke.....CALL HIM ... before you make yourself sick..
2007-10-18 18:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by terryizhere 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋