I have a tremendous amount of stress in my life. I struggle with personal issues to the point of a mental break. I live in a "circus", but I don't have any friends to speak of. I don't mingle well nor do well with too many people.
I'm clever, witty, charming, humorously wierd, and very imaginative. I love literature, film and television, and the occassional stint outside. However, I'm a lot to deal with if you don't know me well (I'm bipolar). I don't sleep because for many reasons, I'm nuerotic, egotistical, and paranoid in some way. With all that I seem to be regarded as a "good person".
I need someone to talk to, but I know (from passed experiences) that I may not be able to find someone I want to speak to the way I need to. It's hard to explain....any thoughts? I need an intellectual mind or something close enough to it. If I must look harder, my crusade will be worth while. Good luck to us all.
2007-10-18 18:08:59 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I feel this way sometimes but have basically resigned myself to a very small group of friends, and that's a step up from the none at all I used to have. I think you should possibly consider lowering your standards for making friends. All friendships take time, and no one is their real selves when you first meet them. Try perhaps being friendlier at work or letting someone in that you might have written off as not your style earlier. It's difficult because unless you're good at mingling or on feel good drugs, it's just tough to make friends. I think the key is to be patient and open to possibility. If someone invites you somewhere, go, even if you don't think that person is your kind of person. If you meet someone you think you could get along with, invite them somewhere, exchange numbers, whatever.
2007-10-18 18:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by mina_lumina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding friends is never easy for some of us...ironically, except fpor the bipo;ar, you sound a lot like me. Over the 30+ years since I graduated from HS, I can count on one hand those I truly consider friends - those I can speak honestly to without them getting PO'd and vice-versa. OTOH, they are true friends, not just casual acquaintances; I'd trust them with my life.
Try finding groups that engage in intellectual discourse or pursuits locally. Don't force it; true friendships develop naturally.
2007-10-18 18:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by Brent Y 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To begin with -- mind you, this is a beginning! -- here are two quotes, for you to think about for some time: #1. " Life is so constructed that an event does not, cannot, and will not meet expectations!" and, #2. "You cannot have everything to enjoy life, but (can have) life to enjoy everything (that happens, that is around you!)" Deduction: Be realistic, positive but realistic in your expectations (and ambitions and hopes), including expectations about and from your friends! Enjoy friendship that is available, mould the friendship with your influence, your 'leadership' power and skills and charm (and humour, of course!)! Have a great time, friend!
2007-10-18 18:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me too.......When you find a very good solution e-mail me.
2007-10-18 18:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋