I need help with my dtr's anger issues. When she gets angry (which is frequently) gets out of control and worry about it a lot.
Anyone knows how she can get help and what kind of help I should look into for her? She refuses psychotherapy and argues constantly at home.
Any groups/books/therapy methods I can look into?
Thank you all in advance
2007-10-18 17:42:49 · 15 answers · asked by The_last_Amazona 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
She is still in college and I have concerns that she may not find a job if she has unresolved anger issues.Also her personal relationships will suffer.
I am just trying to help my daughter, I dont need sarcastic remarks please
2007-10-18 18:04:56 · update #1
I know what you are going through, being a 21 year old female myself.
My mother first tried to force me into counselling, and to take meds but I fought it for so long. This was 4 years ago. Now being 21 I have been suffering from depression and anxiety for 4 years, and am finally taking meds and getting some help (counselling).
The first step you need to do is talk through her options with her. If she is unwilling to go to therapy, and/or take meds, she has to take it upon herself to do what she can to keep herself from having outbursts at home. She could go to a depression support group, or try small counselling sessions/group therapy if she is willing. You need to step back just a bit. She has to want to help herself. You can be there to support, but not be used as a punching bag.
Second, take out some self-help books and have her read them, or have her go out to the community center or anywhere else and volunteer. It will make her feel good, and maybe lessen the anger and frustration she has.
Good luck, mom. I know it's hard, but it is the best for her. :)
2007-10-18 18:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21 and I know alot of girls who are exactly as you describe her. I've been with them at home and they are a wreck there. When out with their friends they are normal but when they get home they become a different person and are horrible to their parents. I don't believe it's a matter that that parent spoiled them or whatever people may say it's just something they do. Try going to some type of book store and getting books for her on teens and anger. I know she isn't a teen but that's exactly how she is acting. They have books called chicken soup for the soul and there are many of them. They are stories about people just like her and hardships they have endured. Maybe if she sees the error of her ways on her own it may help. Don't push things on her because it only makes things worse. She definetly needs some help though and maybe books are the way to go. She then can read them at her own pace and put the stories and life lessons into her own life. So, go to a book store and look up books for teenagers and adolescence. Hope this helped. Feel free to email me if you have any other questions. I have read alot of these books and they really hit home.
2007-10-18 18:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by SuzieQuteness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she won't go to psychotherapy, what makes you think she'll try something else? She's an adult. She needs to make this decision herself. All YOU can do is encourage her to get help, and DON'T PUT UP WITH IT IN YOUR OWN HOME. If there are no consequences for her blowing her top, she'll keep on doing it, adult or no adult. It's time for you to set some ground rules and enforce them.
2007-10-18 17:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, call your local Mental Health Center and set up an appointment for yourself...this needs a professional. Her whole life is at stake.
Second, ask them to refer you to a support group. There you will meet others who can help you and empathize. There find out how they handled their own child.
God helps too.
2007-10-18 17:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by JOHN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me when I was her age. I grew out of it:) lol Anyway, Maybe check her eating habits. I get really grouchy when my blood sugar is low. Another thing to do is not respond to her anger at all. Just walk away. Maybe she will stop.
good luck
2007-10-18 17:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she live with you? If so she needs to get her own place. I went through the same thing with my parents, I got my own place and we are great now. We were just too different and needed some seperation in order to get along. It's like having a roomate you don't get along with.
2007-10-18 17:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by suzette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With right dosage taking pills can successfully cure anger issue.
2016-10-12 06:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing you can do, butr suggest maybe the military that may help or just let her hit bottom and find out herself! trust me i was like that and she needs a kick in the butt, but a loving one to get her out and aware of her actions towards others, good luck!
2007-10-18 18:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be a big help to you and her... She needs to move out. My sister and dad are going through the same thing. Distance always seems to help. It helped me and my dad get along.
2007-10-18 17:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when shes calm and in a good mood try to convince her to go to therapy. suggest you will go to your own psychiatrist/therapist as well so it doesnt make her feel isolated. talk positive but do it sincerely
2007-10-18 17:46:18 · answer #10 · answered by nonphysical 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋