Would you be upset if your Mom did not send you a b day card or a gift?

Question

If you send one yourself to her , yet she did not send one back?

Answer 1

I think that would be a natural reaction. If she doesn't send you one, maybe when you communicate with her, explain how your birthday went. Maybe she will wish you a happy birthday or apologize, maybe she won't say anything at all. If she doesn't reciprocate, ask why she doesn't wish you one for whatever reason. I would be as hurt as you. Mothers should have unconditional love for their children and have common sense too.

Answer 2

Being from a Vietnamese family, we just don't put that much importance on birthdays. The whole birthday thing is more of a "Western" idea to us.

Personally, I don't care if she remembers my birthday or not. She loves me. That's all I need. My mother is not good at expressing her emotions, anyway. Any attempt to openly express her love would just feel too awkward.

And gifts? Ha! We're better off without the pressure of gifts! Because every time we give each other something, at least one of us has a problem with the gift. No. The best gift is a smile and a laugh. We don't need any more than that.

Sure, you may think my words are not that significant. But here's the thing--I'm a teenager! Yes, it's true! So it is actually pretty strange that I'm saying these things. I'm supposed to be begging my parents for a car or something.

I'm willing to send my mom a card or to just scream "HAPPY BIRTHDAY!" when she least expects it. (Ok, that's a bad idea, as she's in her 60s and could get a heart attack.) But I couldn't care less if she returned the favor.

I'm weird. Deal with it.

Answer 3

I'm not, but then my mom is dead. Honestly though, I wouldn't care when she was living. Cards seem too high priced for what they are worth, and I'd rather my mom save her money. Expecting a gift would make me feel greedy.

I would appreciate a phone call, email or a letter more than anything. But, then again it is just a day... nothing really special after childhood is over.

Of course, I would assume that this would be the end of any such former exchanges.

Answer 4

Time gets away from people, and perhaps she just did not realize the date in time to send something. I'm not a big fan of celebrating birthdays, but I know others put a lot of stock in them. Don't let such a trivial thing build a rift though. If you are curious and want to bring up the subject, mention to her what you did to celebrate and what a good time you had. She may have sent you something that got lost in the mail. If so, she may mention it at that point in the conversation. I just got a letter from someone today that was postmarked May 7, 2007. I figured he hadn't written to me!

Answer 5

Seriously...your mom squeezed you out into the world. Be grateful for that, and dont be upset if she forgot to send a birthday card. It doesnt mean she loves you any less.

Answer 6

Probably, cuz she gives me one almost every year..... but lately she has just told me "pick something you like and pass the bill on to me later, I'll reimburse you", and this year she bought me a nice TV by putting together my Xmas and Bday gifts (Dec and April, and I bought the TV in May or so). So I don't care that much about the gift itself BUT I definitely would if she totally forgot and didn't even call..... cuz I've never forgotten her bday (yet!).

Answer 7

I guess that all depends. Did she forget it was your b-day, or are you two having a spat? My mother and I did not speak for almost a year and we let both of our b-days go by. When Christmas came around, I caved and bought her a gift which I hand delivered. She was shocked to see me (I can usually hold a grudge forever) She however, did not buy me a present for Christmas (even though she still had 3 days to shop) I was very hurt but I decided to be the bigger person and not freak out about it. If it is chapping your hide TELL HER!! I would.

Answer 8

If i'm getting something from my on the spot relatives (my siblings, my mom and father, my husband's mom and father, his siblings), I consistently call and enable them to comprehend it got here just to ease their recommendations, as properly to sending thank you enjoying cards. commonly, if i'm getting something from extra nuclear relatives or acquaintances, i will drop an e mail permitting them to comprehend it got here and announcing thank you as properly to the thank you enjoying cards. you are able to under no circumstances tutor too plenty gratitude, and my mom and father had severe expectancies approximately that. whilst our grandparents sent us enjoying cards and funds for our birthdays, we've been expected to call and enable them to comprehend we've been given the cardboard and thank them for that and the money and then as quickly as we offered something with the money or desperate to tuck it away in low cost fees, we've been expected to place in writing a thank you card and tell our grandparents what we used the money for. Sorry that your son would not look to have that gratitude, yet it fairly is almost the way the international is at present. human beings do no longer prepare undemanding courtesy whilst it includes announcing thank you or giving an RSVP or different comparable social graces. even however, badgering somebody approximately no longer announcing thank you probably isn't the main courteous factor out of your end. possibly announcing something like, "interior the destiny, i might decide for to comprehend in case you won the present to place my recommendations comfortable that it have been given there" and if he nevertheless won't, do no longer deliver the present. I heavily do no longer comprehend the thought of no longer telling that individual, fairly your guy or woman verify. So sorry!

Answer 9

Hi Gabby,

I would be. Personally, my mom was halfway across the country for Christmas, My b-day and New Years. Not one card, or phone call.

And she called me on her b-day wondering why I didnt call her to wish her a happy b-day...lol.

Dont sweat it, you're not the only one out there with a whackjob for a mom. I sometimes wonder why she had kids lol. And then I stop, because I realize im giving her way too much thought than she's giving me at that minute.

It's a process. its hard realizing that sometimes people just dont care. You can contact me if you ever want someone to vent to. :)

Answer 10

I would be regardless if I sent her a bday gift or card or not. Its kinda a mom thing to do. A mom should always in my opinion recognize the day she gave birth to her child as wonderful.