if your man pick his mom over u what would u do?

Question

my b/f and i have been together for 3 years now and he always picks his mom over me and we have 2 kids help what to do thanks

Answer 1

I dont think that there is anything that you can do

Answer 2

I don't know the entire situation but given the information you have provided is why I have the reponse I do. If you could give more information I might be able to give you a more comprehensive answer that you will like better. I think it is a good thing that he chose his mom because his mom raised him and he is showing her respect. It does not necessarily mean he is a momma's boy. You have to take into consideration id you have a son and he was married with two kids how you would feel. I honestly don't think it is fair for you to make him choose between you and his mom. That is a hard decision to make and his mom has been around him his whole life so it is only natural for him to choose his mother just as your children will likely choose you over their husbands or wives when they grow up.

Answer 3

You said: "and now he picks his mom"???? so, this is happenning recently, right?
I think he's becoming overwhelmed with two kids and a gf, you guys are not married, right?,
This is classic on a Mama's boy, you need to start treating him as a man.
The other advise is, do you get along with his mother?, if you don't, you better move far away. But if you can start making friends with her, your situation will be better, because she'll be on your side, by knowing you are a good woman.
Start having more control in your relationship and act as a woman.
Talk to him about how this situation makes you feel. Communication in a couple is a very important ingredient. You know him, you need to know when he is open to "listen" and develop a plan good for everyone as a family.
Don't talk bad things about his mother...you will earn an enemy!! easy and one step at a time.

Answer 4

O moi... it's a really hard question. Since now you already have kids with him, it seems like there's no way to get rid of the mommy's boy.

It's sad to hear that when you already got kids (two!), now it's supposedly you and the kids who have become his family. He can still go to his mom for advice or for emotional support, but he needs to know the limit, as now he has more responsibility towards you and the kids.

Since now you`re already bounded together, i think the best advice i can give is to talk with him. Talk how you really feel and sort out some ways to make him to be more open to you instead with his mom. His family (u and the kids) are supposed to be the priority in his life.

Let's now concentrate to your kids, do not teach your kids to become like the dad!

Answer 5

That's a sure sign that he is a "mama's boy", and may always be dependent upon his mom.
You need him to step up to the plate and act like a man.

Since you have 2 kids with him, you somehow need to try and make this relationship work, for the sake of your children, especially if they are very young.

Try to get along with his mother as best you can. Try not to find yourself acting jealous if he seems to favor her. She's been around a lot longer than you, so you have to try and increase the odds of you and him staying together for a long time.

Answer 6

Call him out for being a mama's boy. That's ridiculous. YOU should be the priority in his life now. If he was like 14 I'd understand. But his family is with YOU. You should be more important, and you should make sure that he knows how you feel about that.

Answer 7

I already did it. We are divorced and he's still with his mother. It's a losing battle. If he doesn't want to cut the apron strings, he's not ready to commit to a marital relationship. Of course, your bed-fellow can't be expected to commit because you didn't expect him to apparently. He can still be mama's boy and your bed mate and either way he's not going to grow up and take responsibility it sounds like. It's in the marriage vows you know and make sure you get one willing to say them and to actually do them even if it's included in the ceremony "Who gives this man..."!
Does this mean your kids don't have a legitimate father to take their name from?

Answer 8

My best girlfriend, Her boyfriend, WAS a mommys boy, & all she did was Talk him into being with her more, But yet, not Bitc# about him seeing his mom , She says, she has to Go two routes & Talk things over, In your case might be diffrent, Just tell him, Hon, i love you, But I need you to, & please Dont Chase Him away, hell always need his mom & Hey !!! maybe you might Learn to like her & be close to her to, Stay calm & dont worry & things will fall in place, Dont Sweat Small Stuff, Theres More To Life Than to worry About that.

Answer 9

You need to do more than what his mom does for him... Cooking better than her and so on, then after that you can have a good argument.. Every time you state your opinion against his mom, you should know your facts too, have proofs, that way he can't argue and take her side.

If he really loves you, you should be able to discuss it.

Answer 10

he could be picking a strange woman count your blessings and be friends with his mom invite her alot and be glad she is around , get along with her and go with them or to her house, she was there first. he lives with you. its not tthat he is picking he is used to her and has a hard time disconnecting and he loves his mom. she has to let him go and tell him, he needs to have a life with you and your kids, just be patient and accept the fact his mother will be here till she dies and be glad to have she may be gone one day and i bet you will miss her, if your marriage lasts that long , she may have a hard time letting him go , people have issues try to understand talk to him im sure you can work it out, rember dont take people for granted they may be gone in an instant good luck be happy , he will be back. dont let this tear you apart,

Answer 11

I think that its time that he stops being a mommys boy and focas on you and his kids!!! its ok to love your mom and want the best for her but when you start your own family its time to kinda do your own thing! he should worrie more about you and the kids more then any thing!!!