Basically right now there are so many little ones that are close to me. I can't choose between them. There is one of the little boys that may not care to really do it but everyone else (parents) wants to be included.
As far as bridesmaids it is kind of turning out the same way. I have three best friends and then three sisters and the grooms two sisters. I was kind of hoping that some of them would not really care to be in the wedding but all have elected to do so. I would hate to be excluded so I really don't want to cut anyone out. I asked his sister's because I feel it is only proper plus I don't want to start out with a grudge in the family for me not including them in their brothers wedding.
There is a lack of groomsmen. I am actually having to recruit them :)
OK... so 8 bridesmaids.... 4 flower girls... 5 ring bearers....... and so far 5 groomsmen.
So I am wondering if anyone has seen this done? To me I am not worried about the kids messing up and so forth.
2007-10-18 16:17:26 · 28 answers · asked by lilbobo1980 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think that it would be cute and fun.
I guess I just want to know if you have seen this done. Any suggestions?
2007-10-18 16:19:11 · update #1
I will be able to even out the bridesmaids and groomsmen... I will have to get some family members. I know that some people may think it is tacky... and I don't really care about that. I would rather include everyone that I love and that wants to be included. I am blessed to have them in my life. I just want to know if anyone has seen it done before and maybe has some other suggestions for the flower girls and ring bearers.
2007-10-18 16:29:52 · update #2
There are a bunch of other duties that could help you with your flock of children! I love having little ones in my weddings, they bring joy and laughter. 4 flower girls will work.....but 4 ring bearers might be a bit much. How about Having one:
one ring bearer for each set of rings.
as a bell ringer. Old fashion weddings had a bell ringer to get the guests to settle down, they are the first to go down to the altar. or
one to carry the Bible, or the script of your ceremony to the minister. or
help roll out the wedding carpet. aisle runner.
Best wishes, Chaplain Debby
2007-10-19 16:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When I was little, my aunts wanted to include all of their nieces and nephews in the wedding. So we all wore matching dresses and suits and handed out programs and just ran around looking cute.
She didn't have a flower girl or ring bearer. But if you have a godson/goddaugther, you could pick him/her to be the flower girl or ring bearer. Then you wouldn't be excluding everyone and all the little kids could still be "in" the wedding wearing their matching outfits.
I think this would be a great solution rather than having 10 children walk up the aisle. That would be too much. And everyone's parents will feel their children are included.
As for 8 bridesmaids, that's not totally ridiculous. I have a coworker that is having 14.
2007-10-19 02:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jennies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 bridesmaids isnt so bad....ive heard of more so thats really an ok number, if worse comes to worse what if u asked a few of the bridesmaids' boyfriends/ fiances, etc to act as the other 3 groomsmen.... or have u considered uncles, your dads, or other male relatives that you and your fiance are close to?
as for the 4 flower girls and 5 rings bearers im not so sure... i could see 2 flower girls and 2 ring bearers...find tasks for the others maybe they could be junior bridesmaids or junior groomsmen (if there is such a title) and have them sit with the party... my cousin had some of us pass out programs and bubbles. if you're having a religious ceremony in which people bring up the gifts... maybe add in a few personal items that the little ones could bring up... like a scroll with the names of deceased relatives, etc this way everyone is included and happy and you dont have to stress about this aspect
2007-10-18 16:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by krishel925 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I hear you. At the moment I have 5 Bridesmaids, a junior bridesmaid and a flower girl. My fiance has only chosen three groomsmen so far. I am happy with my 5 bridesmaids. They are my closest girlfriends and my flower girl i have known since she was born. The junior bridesmaid i am having trouble with. She will be my sister in law and her mother is insisting she be in the wedding. And I'll tell you what people have been telling me - It is YOUR day and YOUR decision. Of course all of your futire sister in laws and sisters are going to want to be bridesmaids! But it is really about who YOU want there standing up with you. It may casue some heartache, but what about mixing it up a bit? Like One sister in law, two of your sisters and one of your best friends? That way each family is represented.
As for the kids, maybe not all flower girls and ring bearers, but maybe they can be mini ushers or something. Two of each would be cute and the rest, give them something reall special to do.
Good luck with it darl, this can be very painful, but just know that heaps of women like yourself are going through the same thing!!
2007-10-18 16:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i went to a wedding before and they had a lot of small kids in the wedding... they made some of the little girls faries... you can still have a ring bearer and flower girl... or you can have jr bridesmaids or mini bride and groom.... there are so many options out there these days.... it is your special day!!! just make sure whatever you do decide it is what makes you happy....
2007-10-19 05:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by bprincess1223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had an uneven number of bridesmaids and groomsmen and so we doubled them up coming down the aisle. If you don't want all the kids in the party itself couldn't you assign them jobs like handing out programs or birdseed so they feel they're part of the festivities without having to be in the wedding party itself?
2007-10-18 16:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by TheBusyBaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't seen that done, and I think the idea is sad. It will turn your wedding party into a side show. One flower girl, one ring bearer, max of four bridesmaids.
2007-10-19 02:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask his sisters to stand on his side as Ushers? It would even things out a little better and you wouldn't have to recruit others.
I think all the kids are going to not only be a bit much, but also think about it....that many kids in one place, together for that length of time - there is going to be trouble! They are going to get bored and all it will take is one of them to start fidgeting and the rest will follow and before you know it you have chaos. Explain to the parents that you are going to have to cut it back, and that's all there is to it. They are adults (hopefully) who will need to deal with it.
2007-10-18 17:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by Cory C 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey i love big wedding parties but don't forget about other jobs. U can have a bible bearer or even the town crier (who will anounces the bride's entrance) or even junior bridesmaid or grooms. But it'll work. Sounds good to me. Congratulations and Good luck
2007-10-18 16:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by Miss. K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this happens alot
at my friends wedding between her good friends sisters and his sisters there was 12 of us she has (7 sisters) and there was only 5 guys they really knew well and didnt want to feel like they were intruding and they had they do usher type things walk guests to there seats and the bridesmaids walked in alone and the first five exited with guys and the rest of us exited solo and durring the reception we used boyfriends to do the bridal party dance
2007-10-18 17:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋