with out already investing too much in him. By that I mean already liking him...a lot.
Ive been really hurt and screwed over by guys that I thought were good guys only to find out they were complete...well ya know. Is there any way to tell before I start to like them too much?
2007-10-18 16:11:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go with your gut instinct,whats his reputation? He may not be who people think he is so make your own judgement.Guys that are good with females in their life will tell you that they respect women and like them (for something other than a date), does he have female friends?Is he friends with exes or how did they break up?Does he talk badly about people?If he does then you will likely be something he also will talk badly about in future.There are lots of signs. Is he honest?Do you trust what hes saying?Does he give straight answers or do you never know what hes up to?
I think its cool that you can hold back, I fall for guys too easy once I start kissing them..and often I sleep with them too soon..this is an error by the way..If he is pressuring you for sex then thats a bad sign.Write down what went wrong with each guy in your past and what were their character traits and try to find your pattern. Remember Dr. Phil says that we teach people how to treat us so try to figure out where your responsiblity lies with your past guys and look to change one thing...
2007-10-18 16:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One way you can tell is by looking at their handwriting which studies show is over 80% accurate for judging a person by the way they write. For example, someone who puts a knot in the top of the letter O can be more secretive than a person who has an opening there, or the higher the crossbar is in the letter T, the more they think ahead until it is too high and then it means the person is a dreamer, and so on. Check out the link below and you will get some idea of that and perhaps even decide to do that for a living as many are doing.
2007-10-18 23:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if his name is GoodGuy53, that's a good start.
If you see he treats others how he wants to be treated, has some empathy for anyone besides himself, if he likes his mom, and he considers you more important than sports, than your off to a good start. But any jerk can pretend for 6 months. Sadly there is no shortcut. I did hear of a website that warns other women of losers they have dated. I don't know the name though. If all else fails, what ever doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Good luck.
2007-10-18 23:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I would have followed my instincts and not allowed his smooth talking win me over I would have saved myself a LOT of time and heart break...
My X treated his mother like a goddess... He loved his dog, my dog, and my cat...
Yet there were a few times when I first started dating him that I would look over at him and he would look "Bad".
Not an expression or a mood but a couple of specific times I looked at him and was able to see the "Real" him but I believed his words and not MY GUT!
I remember one specific time in particular that is burned in my mind...
It was the day after he told me he loved me for the first time...
We went swimming at a friend's house, he got out of the pool, and walked towards where I was sitting and his eyes and eyebrows and nose and the set of his mouth screamed "EVIL"!
I remember looking REALLY hard and tilting my head to make sure it wasn't the light...
I remember that he looked at me and asked if everything was alright...
He looked concerned that I was looking at him the way that I was...
But he had told me that he loved me and I had told him that I loved him... The emotions were running high and I shrugged it off as a fluke...
It was the biggest mistake of my life!!
It happened 2 more times before we moved in together and I wish that I could go back and follow my instincts...
F O L L O W Y O U R G U T !
BELIVE IN YOUR INSTINCTS!!
Your gut is more attuned to reality then your mind when it comes to these issues!
2007-10-18 23:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy is honest and he keeps his word it's usually a good indication that he's a good guy. But you never really know if he's genuinly a good guy until you give it time. You may get burned a few times in the process, but hey, think about it as life experience and a lesson learned for the next time around.
2007-10-18 23:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by Shanta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately guys and girls do not show true colors until you've been around them awhile. Observing how they act in different situations will give you a clue though. See how he treats children and pets, how he responds to unfavorable situations, does he treat people with respect or always need to put people down.
Does he make off color jokes frequently. if yes..then he's likely to be immature and inappropriate around parents and older adult company. Does he exhibit integrity by doing what he says he will do, or does he blow off things because he simply doesn't want to do them. I hope what I've written helps you find someone worthy of you and stop going out with creeps. Guard your heart.
2007-10-18 23:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but no, there probably isn't a way to tell. Just like all the girls I've dated have turned out to be completely psychotic or insane, you really won't be able to tell if a guy is genuinely a good guy. Only time and your trust will tell.
2007-10-18 23:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by toblerone.king 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch how he treats other people.
Does he treat the waitress with respect?
Does he avoid gossip or talking bad about people?
Is he always honest to other people?
These are some very important things to observe very carefully on a date. He will be treating you well, because he is trying to impress you. But how does he treat others? Does he cuss out the guy who cut him off in traffic, or does he act like the restaurant server is a piece of garbage? Eventually, he will treat you like he treats everyone else......
2007-10-18 23:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by greengo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't know if someone is bad unless you do something bad to them. You must talk to him and find out yourself but don't get too attached to him, otherwise it's going to be hard to walk away.
Example: This guy truly loved me and still does, but since I told him that I have No feelings towards him he started changing his attitude towards me by making me feel like a bad person myself. Although he still loves me. He could have just said Ok and moved on to his own life, but instead he proved himself that he is not the kind I thought he was. I would go into details but it's just too long. ALL you have to do is get to know him. Ask people who know him.
2007-10-18 23:15:32 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be friends first. I know it's very hard when the new passion is at full-throttle, but try. Ask him questions about himself. Really pay attention to his answers. Try and get to know each other. If you can't be friends...not much hope for a future.
2007-10-18 23:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by britters621532 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋